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Been going through it lately. Find myself venturing a couple blocks to a nearby beach, and driving past the 4wd only sign to find some solitude.

I go out there, set a timer for a hour, put my ear plugs in (earplugs are custom made for extended periods of power tool work in enclosed spaces), and stare at the shore.

I'm not figuring my life out, or trying to achieve zen. just shut down for an hour. I quit thinking, quit everything but looking, and listen to my breathing. I watch the birds come and go, searching the shore for minnows and mollusks and all in silence. Eventually my watch vibrating is enough to bring me back to it, and I go home.

My life is so loud, and busy, and constantly changing. Sometimes I think I just need a lack of noise for a while.

Anyone else?

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[-] [email protected] 3 points 12 hours ago

I’ve started carrying “loop” brand plugs for daily wear and the in-ear construction-y ones and I’m a big fan. One of my favorite ways to think is just staring off at nature, no active thoughts, just background processes chugging away while I feel the world around

[-] [email protected] 4 points 16 hours ago

silence is not the absence of all noise.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

I live on the side of a mountain and the silence here is amazing. I usually write or read because it's so jarring to break the silence with a game or show. Town is only twenty minutes away and the town is right on the shore so I can head to the beach whenever I want to come into town. There's a little estuary with a creek running out into the ocean that has little foot traffic and is fairly quiet for being in town at least. I've noticed since where I live is so quiet that the noise of traffic in town really effects me. Nearby the highway my ears will actually ring. I tend to try to avoid downtown proper and look for all the tucked away quiet spots.

I remember a map I saw one time that had all the quietest spots in the US ranked by their lack of air traffic and other noise. I always thought it would be cool to roadtrip to one of those places.

[-] [email protected] 23 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

you've invented mindfulness or meditation or whatever you wanna call it, it's nice comfy

[-] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago

It is, really. I feel a little bit better afterwards usually. Not zen, but my blood pressure drops and things get turned down from an 8 or 9 to a 4 or 5. It makes stuff tolerable.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 19 hours ago

Noise bad. Noise stressful. Can you tell me more about these custom earplugs that are good enough to protect you from long power tool use? I have to use foam earplugs for the range plus heavy earmuffs to get things quiet enough for me sometimes, really sensitive to noises

[-] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago

db blockers non-vented silicone.

They were about 200 for a pair and I had to get fitted at an audiologist. But they're the bees knees. Depending on frequency of sound and where from 33bd to 46db of reduction. They're really good for high frequency stuff.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago

Thank you! High frequencies are the worst for me so this sounds really useful.

[-] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago

i love silence. i recently realized i hated auditory talking and preferred writing things down. it's so much nicer and quieter. comfy-cool

[-] [email protected] 10 points 23 hours ago

For the same reason I hate podcasts and videos, when you can write the same thing as an article or whatever.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 21 hours ago

Both are fine. Id like more written stuff available in that regard. Old internet being mostly text was fin and I miss it.

[-] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago

Sounds like meditation in a way, no? I just disassociate mostly, zone out and doomscroll or distract myself with video games or comic books. Manchild shit I suppose but it's how I cope.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

I think it is, in a way. It's just never been focused or intentional, it just sorta ended up here somehow.

[-] [email protected] 9 points 22 hours ago

i do this when i go hiking it's basically meditation but timed to motion/activity

[-] [email protected] 4 points 21 hours ago

I used to do something similar when I lived near the coast. I would drive out to the beach at night by myself and just sit on the sand in the dark and listen to the waves.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 20 hours ago

I do that on occasion when my mind won't quit running.

It's cheap therapy.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 20 hours ago

I like living in the city but miss nature shit so much. I gotta find the furthest bus route out of town and find a big spot of woods no one is using. Relaxing in nature is the most relaxing way to relax.

Also I just fucking LOVE exploring forests. Lived out in the sticks on a kilometer sized farm for a while and beyond the fields which kinda went up a hill was a lightly wooded peak that became denser on the other side and I built little bases by fixing up deer blinds people had left in trees or just by hauling wood up and building a shed or two to keep tools in, the deer blinds were for snack and booze storage. Had a few pop tents I got for cheap that I stashed in different sheds so I could just spend days living in the woods with what id already set up and a cooler that I'd attached to a wagon with bike wheels on it that the huskies could haul like a sled. Id sit in it and they'd run me up the hill to the woods. Fucking sucks the human situation was a nightmare cause having miles of woods to explore fucking ruled.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 23 hours ago

I purposefully live in a place that is largely isolated from everyone else. I've done the city thing, and i work with nonstop smells, noise, and activity. It rattles my head, and by the time my run ends, i'm basically ready to quit society. I'm much more comfortable with sitting on the moss by a babbling brook, just hearing the goings on around me. I guess that's why any time off that i have, i go hiking with my wife. Just the two of us, wandering down paths ancient and isolated, occasionally saying hi to a passing fellow traveler.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago

I came from a small place where the cows outnumber the people. I live in a moderate size city in a coastal area now, the beach is fifteen min away. There's no hiking there to speak of but I just go and sit as often as I can. Most times it's a hour, but sometimes less. Kids, work, family, etc.

The beach (people probably picture Key West, or Cali, but the GoM along Texas is anything but) affords me a place to decompress. Sometimes I throw a couple sheets and a pillow in the back of the truck and just find a spot and lay in the back of the truck at look up.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 20 hours ago

I felt this way today, didn't get the chance to sit in s quite space until everyone was sleeping. It's just nice to experience the stillness. I love the night. I think if I could, I'd stay up till 3am just to sit in that stillness for longer. It's like by brain craves it.

[-] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

I can hardly do that while in the city if my smartphone is anywhere within reaching distance. I often throw it somewhere away from me and keep it out of sight just so I can be able to dissociate for a bit. It's so much easier to do when I'm on vacation away from everything, but I guess in the city the everyday stress is so much that my body asks for the phone to be able to cope.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

I'm in a city now too, just on the outskirts sorta. I'm in a poorer part that actually got redlined back in the 1980s. The street I'm on got split in half. I just happen to be close to the beach. It's also a beach on the Gulf of Mexico, and it's nothing picturesque. It's just a place I can go that happens to not cost anything beyond the yearly parking permit fee of $13.

It's open 24/7 so even on the nights I wake up stressing out, I go out there and sit. There's a public fishing pier that goes out about 300' and sometimes I'll go sit at the end and just listen to the water and watch the fishermen go about their night.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 17 hours ago

I used to just sit in an empty public park after midnight and just stare into space every night. Its just too noisy all day even at home so it was nice but a few times I fell asleep on the park bench while sitting still and got late for work. One time I got lucky because someone checked up on me to see if I was okay.

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