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submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Women are taught to nurture and develop men. That's great, except sometimes trying puts you at risk, and it's often not reciprocated. Who here has got stuck in the past?

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[-] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Men are not houses. They cannot be "unique fix'er'upper opportunities". They are not "projects" and we are not "building engineers". My sisters, this is a critical lesson to learn in life, and it's never too late to learn it. When you do learn it, the only thing you lose are your chains!

If men want to be fixed, well, they can fix themselves or they can find themselves fixed by other means! ✂ 🤣

[-] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago

But first she is going to have to take down some women to pull this off.

[-] [email protected] 19 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

This reminds me of the moment i was actively listening to the lyrics of "paranoid” for the first time (i heared the song before, i just didn't really listen)

Finished with my woman 'Cause she couldn't help me with my mind

And i thought:

Well, Ozzy, maybe that's because:

  • she wasn't supposed to
  • it was not her job
  • she might have been occupied with her own mind, which can be plenty of work for one person alone
  • you probably did not pay her a psychiatrist salary
  • she probably was not trained to do so
  • if she was trained and you didn't pay her, then why should she?
  • if she was not trained eventhough you paid her, then why could she?
  • if she is not trained and you didn't pay her, then why would she?
  • and if she is trained and you did pay her then it is not your woman it is your therapist with whom you engage in a prosessional relationship
  • your expectation is unrealistic in the first place, how dare you writing lyrics like that, making persons think that those are valid expectations to have.

Anyway, in my experience men never really want "help" or change things. They just like complaining about stuff. They complain about their own flaws and especially yours (his partners) flaws, flaws in the world, the politics, persons at work, the boss. In my experience whenever i offered help to deal with some stuff they usually complained about, they don't want to hear it. They don't even want to try. They just expect you to be some sort of sponge that absorbs all the rambling about everything that sucks for them.

  • also, Ozzy, what did you do to help your mind?
[-] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Smoking and drinking is all that he did. And some sweet leaf.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

He was snowblind too.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

Depression and isolation can be a bitch.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

thanks for your comment, but unfortunately this community has a rule that only women are permitted to comment. Hope you understand 💙

[-] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Totally agree with everything you say about Ozzy. And there are too many men who just don't do what they need to do about THEIR problems

[-] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago

Holy shit I never stopped to think about the Wizard of Oz in that way!

Luckily I haven't been in this situation. I feel so badly for women who have, it looks draining and stressful.

[-] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Me neither! I did a double take when I saw the meme

[-] [email protected] 13 points 2 days ago

I once tried to convince a man not to be an absolute fascist piece of garbage, now I just mess with them.

[-] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Oh no, I don't do projects lol been there done that shits exhausting

[-] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago

Yep the project needs to work on themselves!

[-] [email protected] 5 points 3 days ago
this post was submitted on 07 Jun 2025
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