Anyone ever felt this way? : adhd

[-] [email protected] 4 points 21 hours ago

If you do it enough you will be the most competent person in the room. With our wildly cross wired brains and enough time taking in all forms of information we can really dazzle the normal hairless monkeys. As long as we can avoid those wildly branching thoughts that start with the proper way to set up a 3d printer and quickly move into how to get the best consistency when making mashed potatoes with a mixer. The two things are related but if they ask you how you freeze up because the gap is hundred thoughts wide between them. A fraction of a second for you but it would take an hour to explain it to them and no one has that kind of time as we quickly lose patience because they cannot just see that.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 18 hours ago

People at work cannot fathom my "Do all the things at once and rarely fuck up" methodology. Because as my brain pingpongs around all the microtasks involved in the macrotasks I just do it then and then do the next one.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago

ouch too accurate

[-] [email protected] 3 points 21 hours ago

I personally always feel ignorant for not knowing some things that for some reason seem like common knowledge to others. Like why people know about locations in the area and speak to them as if I could look outside the windows and expect to see a sign. I can't. Idk how people manage to learn something like all the countries and capitals around the world. I barely know all the states in the USA.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)

god damnit maybe I should try and get diagnosed even as an adult

[-] [email protected] 1 points 16 hours ago

I did and got medicated. Non stimulant and sometimes it even helps.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 18 hours ago

Now I do.

I mean, I've always felt that way, but never able to put it into words.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

🙋‍♂️

This is 100% me.

[-] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago

And so many more ways.

[-] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

And... Why not both? (:

[-] [email protected] 42 points 2 days ago

That doesn't really sound like ADHD to me, but rather low self-esteem. I am sure the ADHD could be contributing to the low self-esteem but it doesn't sound like the same thing.

[-] [email protected] 28 points 2 days ago

It's internalized ableism related to being told their whole lives they're so smart and talented if only they weren't so lazy. We're extremely capable - sometimes. The rest of the time we struggle at the most basic of everyday tasks that normal people find trivial. Now combine that with late diagnosis. That's a lot of years being told you should be better and wondering why you're not. At the very least, it's an extremely specific kind of low self esteem.

It may not be solely caused by dopamine levels, but the experience is common among many ADHD sufferers and our brain chemistry does predispose us to responding to that in certain ways (which is why we can break out of that pattern more easily when medicated).

[-] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago

Wouldn't personally call it disabled, moreso disadvantaged mentally, setback. Unlike disabled people we're more than capable of doing most things, it's just a mental hurdle to do the same things as a NT with the same efficiency. Kind of like being left handed in a right handed world mentally but 10x worse, society doesn't seem to be able to cope or bear with people with ADHD very well.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 22 hours ago

ADHD is literally a disability...

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[-] [email protected] 1 points 11 hours ago

Mate, in Germany I could even apply for a disability status. Medication doesn't magically cure you, it just helps. Some people have it so severely, that they can't function without help from someone. One of my best friends is like that. Meds help but he has high blood pressure so he can't take them. You're saying he isn't disabled? That is fucking wild man.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

Disorders can be disabilities.
Medication and disabilities are not opposites of each other.
Disabilities are a spectrum, yes. If you have ADHD and don't personally want to consider yourself disabled, then fine. But don't go telling everyone that ADHD isn't a disability at all.

ADHD is literally listed as an example on the CDC page about disabilities. https://www.cdc.gov/disability-and-health/about/index.html

[-] [email protected] 4 points 21 hours ago

You seem to be misunderstanding what disability means. ADHD is recognized all over the world as a disability. It is literally a disability.

There are different degrees of disability. Just because someone can function doesn't mean they don't have a disability. You mentioned arthritis. Many people with arthritis can do most things, just with difficulty. Medication can also help them. They're still disabled.

[-] [email protected] 32 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

While you're right that it's not an explicit ADHD thing, it is very much a symptom of it. How To ADHD made a video about motivation and points out some of the emotional aspects of it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OM0Xv0eVGtY which can cause the problematic low self-esteem and people-pleasing behaviour. But there has been a lot of connections with ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria which can further connect to the behaviours in the OP.

Another good Additude article was written from a question sent in, "How can I stop people-pleasing at work?".

In short: Everyones ADHD affects everyone differently but this definitely has strong connections to ADHD.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago

there has been a lot of connections with ADHD and Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

Reading this phrase is like watching my life flash before my eyes. I’m struggling to think of issues I’ve had over the decades that I couldn’t relate back to that crap.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Wild to read about RSD and see myself in every single sentence.

[-] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Thank you for the rundown and links. It's news to me but that does indeed sound like there's a connection there.

I'll have to look into that more at some point. I appreciate your effort to help educate a lot.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

To corroborate this, I have ADHD, just stumbled into this meme and thought "Hey I'm in that picture, cool.".

I've had almost 40 years being undiagnosed and thus unmanaged hyperfocusing on random but sometimes-useful knowledge. Deeply insecure about personal competence, perfect example for chronic imposter syndrome. I feel called out.

[-] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

It is very interesting to read about everyone's experience with ADHD, and how different it really expresses itself.

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[-] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago

C-c-c-comorbidities!

[-] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago

Nah, I have that that behavior and crazy high self-esteem. I'm genuinely convinced I can be the most competent person in any situation and I'm usually right.

[-] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Yeah this sounds like it could be CPTSD or part of a personality disorder, which you can often find in people with ADHD (myself an example woo).

[-] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago

Pretty much exactly, yes. Anything below perfection is utter failure

[-] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago

The worst part is other people realize it before you do and then try to take advantage...

[-] [email protected] 2 points 6 hours ago

I never thought about that, but you're right. I was wondering why that kept happening.

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