Females

woah i didnt know obama used 4chan

Yes, oop, they think you’re hitting on them. I can’t blame them.

Doesn't matter what they think of you personally.

You're just one request between the hundreds that are trying to hit on them.

The only friends requests I get on Facebook is rando gay men that want to bang so yes, it is because they assume you are a rando that wants to bang.

Whenever I see things like this I think the man making the comment really has no idea how much unwanted attention young, single women get from random men. Especially if you're pretty and nice, men just take that as an invitation. For every genuinely polite person trying to be charming you have dozens of creeps just being weird.

At one point, I got on the Facebook bus. I regret it for multiple reasons, but the recommendations are what made me jump ship years ago.

See, they would throw up recommendations of people that were "friends" with my actual friends and family. Which meant that most of them were also friends and family, or at least people I knew in real life.

At some point though, Facebook decided that sending requests to people was not acceptable, I guess, because they suspended the account. It was temporary, but what the fuck? Like, I had the same last name as 60% of the people I was connecting with. The other ones were often people that used to have the same last name but got married. As in relatives. The rest were school friends and such.

So, I just said fuck it. Only time I'd mess with it at all was when someone would send me a link to something there. Eventually, I got sick of that too, posted a message saying that anyone who wanted to contact me after a week should let me know so we could exchange emails or whatever, then after a week I deleted the account. I do, technically still have one that was set up for games only, but I can't remember the password, and don't give enough of a fuck to reset it.

I feel like a lot of the online discourse, and a few isolated in-person interactions, wants to frame this sort of stuff as evidenciary of how miserable and oppressive it is to be men in the modern world.

I don't believe it; frankly, I think it's a ploy to instill division by exploiting young men's lack of emotional intelligence (not necessarily their fault) but even if it were true, I don't buy the response being that society has it out to get men and we need to accommodate people who refuse to learn how deal with their own emotions.