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[–] [email protected] 270 points 16 hours ago (7 children)

As a parent, if my kid did that, I'd likely side with the neighbour. I would put it (very loosely) in the category of "natural consequence" punishments.

It fits the crime, it discourages the crime, it forces empathy with the cat, and it does no real harm.

[–] [email protected] 91 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

This is my favorite answer. I'd argue that he got less than the natural consequences of his actions. In nature, when one assaults another, even with something as harmless as water, it's usually reasonable to interpret it as a threat, the response to which is usually violence. That kid is lucky he didn't get a face full of claws. I've gotten a lot worse from gently touching cats that, as it turned out, didn't want to be touched. Boundaries are important.

[–] [email protected] 47 points 15 hours ago (4 children)

Natural consequences doesn't mean "law of the jungle" here. It just means linking cause and effect in a proportionate manner.

I tend to use a lot of "natural consequence parenting". Basically, the response should flow from the cause. If you throw water over your friend, you can't then complain if they throw water over you. You learn that, while it's fun when expected, it can be deeply unpleasant when unexpected.

It's a lot more effective than random generic punishments. The trick is shielding them from excessive results, while allowing proportional ones to play out. E.g. swinging on a chair will get a warning, but often not stopped. When they fall, there's an "I told you so" before/with the cuddle. If there is a risk of a more serious injury however, e.g. the corner of a table where their head may hit, then I step in and stop things.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I don't have kids but this is pretty much how my dad raised me. It made me really respect when he gave me a hard no for something, it meant "no really the risk majorly outweighs the reward" and even if I didn't understand it at the time I trusted it. I got a lot of I told you so after varying seriousness of injuries lol. Eventually I learned that the soft warning meant I was going to have a lot of fun but I needed to be ready for if it went sideways. Now I've got a pretty healthy sense of my own limits and when to start gauging risk/reward

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (3 children)

Everyone here balancing the ethics of getting wet like it's assault.

Water melts snowflakes and wicked witches, everyone else need not worry.

All living things should be used to being wet either all the time or somewhat regularly. To think beyond that, wow, society has its teeth in you and you are lost.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 11 hours ago

It is assault, though.

Kid acted maliciously towards the cat. It's not like the kid accidentally knocked a bottle of water and some of it splashed the cat. No. There was a conscious decision to torment the cat by deliberately throwing water over it.

Punishment fits the crime here.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 hours ago (3 children)

The cat could panic, run away and get lost. Small a actions can have big consequences.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago

Or the cat could secretly be a wicked witch, who then vows to make an evil AI to contact aliens in order to slay all humans in revenge. Who knows what monstrous things could happen as a consequence of getting a cat wet????

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 14 hours ago (3 children)

Those 40 acid tablets I had in my back pocket though

[–] [email protected] 9 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

"I hope you're free for about a month, man!"

[–] [email protected] 9 points 12 hours ago

"hey man, am I driving ok?"

"I think we're parked, man"

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 16 hours ago (9 children)

i think i still remember where i was the first time i saw this posted

[–] [email protected] 11 points 11 hours ago

Some say the neighor is still pounding on the door. But that kid went in Congress.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Lucky for me I'm one of today's 10,000 and have not seen this before.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

Were you walking with your dinosaur next to Jesus on the beach when the footprints disappeared?

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