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[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 minutes ago

Stop letting your cats roam, you assholes. Maybe keep your cat off your neighbours property? Don’t make your pet someone else’s pest and they won’t be treated as such.

Roaming cats are a big problem, not to mention the entitlement of cat owners who think it’s ok to open their doors and let their cats fuck off to do whatever on whoever’s property. Imagine if dog owners did that? They rightly have their pet taken away and charged

[–] [email protected] 42 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

My head hurts from reading that. Comma and periods, people. Comma and periods.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

This is what big comma and periods want you to believe. Don't be a fool!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 40 minutes ago

too many commas and periods to provide a believable refuttal

[–] [email protected] 173 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

As a parent, if my kid did that, I'd likely side with the neighbour. I would put it (very loosely) in the category of "natural consequence" punishments.

It fits the crime, it discourages the crime, it forces empathy with the cat, and it does no real harm.

[–] [email protected] 60 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

This is my favorite answer. I'd argue that he got less than the natural consequences of his actions. In nature, when one assaults another, even with something as harmless as water, it's usually reasonable to interpret it as a threat, the response to which is usually violence. That kid is lucky he didn't get a face full of claws. I've gotten a lot worse from gently touching cats that, as it turned out, didn't want to be touched. Boundaries are important.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 5 hours ago (3 children)

Natural consequences doesn't mean "law of the jungle" here. It just means linking cause and effect in a proportionate manner.

I tend to use a lot of "natural consequence parenting". Basically, the response should flow from the cause. If you throw water over your friend, you can't then complain if they throw water over you. You learn that, while it's fun when expected, it can be deeply unpleasant when unexpected.

It's a lot more effective than random generic punishments. The trick is shielding them from excessive results, while allowing proportional ones to play out. E.g. swinging on a chair will get a warning, but often not stopped. When they fall, there's an "I told you so" before/with the cuddle. If there is a risk of a more serious injury however, e.g. the corner of a table where their head may hit, then I step in and stop things.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

It's not really about the proportion. The rest you have right. Things (good or bad) may happen as a result of your behavior (good or bad). Those things are natural consequences. We talk about it a lot in the context of punishing behavior, but natural consequences can also reinforce behavior. Of course, if we design those consequences, they're no longer natural.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I don't have kids but this is pretty much how my dad raised me. It made me really respect when he gave me a hard no for something, it meant "no really the risk majorly outweighs the reward" and even if I didn't understand it at the time I trusted it. I got a lot of I told you so after varying seriousness of injuries lol. Eventually I learned that the soft warning meant I was going to have a lot of fun but I needed to be ready for if it went sideways. Now I've got a pretty healthy sense of my own limits and when to start gauging risk/reward

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 hours ago

That's basically the goal I'm aiming for. It's also worth remembering to always give an (age appropriate) explanation with the "no". If you're using a hard no, then there is something they don't yet understand. Explaining it lets them integrate that knowledge into their future risk management.

The only downside is their confidence is high enough to terrify me! The job of containing and shaping that confidence, without damaging it gives me plenty of grey hairs.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

As a native social media pedant, I'd just like to take a moment to split hairs and point out that's the literal definition of that phrase.

With all that said, I'm glad you've taken that approach. They're very lucky to have you. I wish I could've had more adults like that in my life as a child. Here's to you and your contribution to supporting the next generation. May they pass on those values, too.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 hours ago

That's why I clarified. There's 2 ways to read the phrase, one a lot harsher than the other.

It seems to be working well. It also results in me being surprised a lot of the time. I'm ready to deal with a scuffed knee, or a bruised ego. Instead they either get back up and try again, or just pull it off. At that point I need to mentally correct for their new capabilities.

The key thing is, I'm not looking after a small pet, I'm training a future adult. They need to both instinctively understand how the world works, while packing as much awesomeness and magic into the formative years as possible. Letting them learn and practice is a big part of that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I like that approach. But when the parent only has their kid's half of the story, it's understandable why they would be pissed. I think most of us would be. Why did they do that to my kid? I'd want answers amd I wouldn't be happy about it.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I suspect most kids who would throw water at a cat like that would not be very good liars about it. Also, adults tend not to dump water on kids for no reason. I would definitely take the time to pick apart what happened, before going full papa bear mode.

I might be pissed, but my instinct would be to find out who I should be pissed at first, before going on the war path.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 12 minutes ago

Many people are not like that.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (2 children)

Everyone here balancing the ethics of getting wet like it's assault.

Water melts snowflakes and wicked witches, everyone else need not worry.

All living things should be used to being wet either all the time or somewhat regularly. To think beyond that, wow, society has its teeth in you and you are lost.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 hour ago

It is assault, though.

Kid acted maliciously towards the cat. It's not like the kid accidentally knocked a bottle of water and some of it splashed the cat. No. There was a conscious decision to torment the cat by deliberately throwing water over it.

Punishment fits the crime here.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Those 40 acid tablets I had in my back pocket though

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

"I hope you're free for about a month, man!"

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 hours ago

"hey man, am I driving ok?"

"I think we're parked, man"

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago

You’ll be fine in 12 hours.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 7 hours ago (4 children)

i think i still remember where i was the first time i saw this posted

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 hour ago

Some say the neighor is still pounding on the door. But that kid went in Congress.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Were you walking with your dinosaur next to Jesus on the beach when the footprints disappeared?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

yes.i don't know if it matters, but i was also wearing sandals with socks on.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago

What was Jesus wearing?

[–] [email protected] 19 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Lucky for me I'm one of today's 10,000 and have not seen this before.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

always my favourite reply, and always my favourite comic. be well, my friend.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 hours ago (5 children)

For me, it was 3rd and Market. It was November 22nd, 1963 at about 1238pm. I was walking past Sal's Electeonic Emporium when I saw the commotion on the TVs in the display window.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

For me it is fine, that bastard will think twice next time.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 minutes ago

The bastard who let’s their pet roam and fuck with other peoples property?

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

If his Dad's reaction is any indication, he likely won't.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 hours ago (2 children)

Except the cat owner is willing to go to bat for the cat

If nothing else that kid will understand he's picking a fight with more than a cat

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago) (3 children)

Idk,

Shouting “Hey, don’t do that” loud and clear may be more effective.

  • kid may have thought they where alone and will get jumped from getting caught.

  • May alert the parents their kid is up to mischief.

  • Doesn’t potentially start an escalation war with neighbors

  • Doesn’t carry the small risk of the child falling or otherwise getting hurt with you as an easy blame.

Think of it like this: Does the kid now understand the “evil” of their actions to try be better next time. Or will they feel vindicated by their parents support against your “evil”

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

Or will they feel vindicated by their parents support against your “evil”

Then that's a parental problem, not a problem caused by the action.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 hours ago

You're right, but this is fuck around and find out territory. I would want the escalation to make it clear where I stand with my cat.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 hours ago

You're probably in the right here, but at least they'll know what it's like to be assaulted with water.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Throwing water at each other, the way people used to throw eggs...

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 hours ago

Don't worry. Water prices will start going up too.

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