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Please I've been wanting to change my hair forever. Still can't decide on a look. I've been thinking of a pixie cut but they all look too girly or make me look like a Karen idfk heeelp

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 week ago
[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

What a hoot!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Get the Gen Z broccoli cut if you have lots of hair

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Lmao I'm not gen z enough and if I look like a broccoli you vegans might eat me

Also my hair is dead straight it would look soooo funny if I did the broccoli cut.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Straight hair eh? Thought you had feathers

What about a classic men’s style? Think Steve Carell or George Clooney. If your face is lady-shaped it will balance out the masc. might look like a schoolboy though, but definitely androgynous

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Hmm, how would I ask for that?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Bring a photo, say you want a men’s haircut. Maybe even go to a barber instead of a hairdresser, if you have any confidence they won’t fuck with you for being NB. In my experience barbers are very cool, but YMMV

I once brought a mugshot of Pretty Boy Floyd, barber loved it and had fun duplicating an extremely outdated haircut.

That was before I lost all my hair. Haven’t been to a barber in a decade!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Damn that guy had a lot of mugshots for someone who didn't live past 30. Just looked it up to see the haircut and there are at least 5 in the first page of results

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Lmao oh of course

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

If you have straight hair then a bowl cut looks sick

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Liberty spikes

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

This is called a shaggy pageboy apparently, it's more or less what I have. It's a bit longer than most of the other suggestions, if that's what you're looking for.

Honestly I just looked up Rei Ayanami haircut and then tried to do that to myself. It's messy but that's how I like it

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago

Lots of enbies in my life rock a mullet, it works great

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Antithesis: Billy-Ray slayed the mullet so fully the world agreed no one else could rock it

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

I think the bieber cut looks great (dunno what he's got these days but you know what cut i mean yeah?) or any cut that has buzzed sides has always looked super fly to these peepers

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Big fan of shaved heads for androgynous looks, though that leans heavily on how you style yourself clothing-wise.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I dunno if I have the right face shape to pull that off, I admire people who can pull off the bald look.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

It's definitely hard to pull off, but looks cool as hell when done right. Maybe ask your friends if they think you can pull it off! Other than that, I have no ideas, sorry lol

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

i hear tonsures are in right now

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Maybe a quiff? If you’re trying to look androgynous, I’d avoid the fade that comes in a lot of the reference images on Google. Not sure why. Just my intuition. The articles about quiffs have more variation and show distinct looks. And you can find variations of this haircut on any gender and face shape, although the quiffs on women seem to have more fades and colors in them. Good to have reference images of what you want as well as references of what you’re looking to avoid with a particular cut.

Edit: also, if you don’t already have a hairdresser who specializes in gender affirming cuts, that does help.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

buzz cuts can be liberating, you can do it yourself, sends a strong not cishet and anti authority vibe, you can do it yourself, less money and time on products and its popular with the masc and feminist on xiaohongshu. dont do an undercut (outdated), and also i would not go with a pixie cut (not your vibe).

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

dont do an undercut (outdated)

FUK (puts a hat on)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

im on a quest to save as many millennials as i can on this site. most of the fashion advice on here is 10 to 15 years old and genuinely will not make you look more queer (and definitly not cool) in the slightest.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Chasing the latest trends is bourgeois! meow-tableflip

(Jk thank you for your service)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

lol youre welcome. the way i see it is that fashion is nonverbal communication. You're constantly communicating something either intentionally or unintentionally with your appearance. Communication is essential for finding community/ companionship. if youre queer and you want other queer people to know you are queer you cannot expect them to read your mind (especially in a world where straight outing yourself to every stranger is dangerous), you need to use nonverbal communication to let them know you are in the in group. queer people have always done this. and this communication must rely on shared symbols and aesthetics, or you wouldn't be able to communicate with each other. This goes for all subcultures. the issue is that in the modern world cis het people are appropriating queer culture at a insane rate with the internent, and things that were queer nonverbal indicators 15 years ago and now mostly worn by conservative cis hets (booooo). so it may take effort but a part of being in community with people is learning and engaging with the culture around you. and that involves keeping up the the "trends". as long as queerness exist so will queer culture and so will queer fashinon exist as a form of communication.

i just made a new friend at a gay club 2 days ago becuase someone saw we had similer outfits and introduced us. queer people introduce themselves to me where ever i go becuase i look queer, i can make freinds anywhere, people remember me, people approch me, i promise it genuennly makes your life better to have intentional style.