Stoically treating people well when they are terrible to you isn't going to bring them around. DON"T put effort into the problem people in life. "the idiot by fyodor dostoevsky" is a warning not a guide book. Those people will fuck you up and not remember .
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When the argument against an initiative says, "greedy developers" that is just a populist NIMBY smear spoken by even greedier, already-existing landlords.
I actually voted against a housing development one time because I got played by those words. I'm a little wiser now.
Working fast food jobs versus working a professional job. There's a reason people work in fast food whether that be age, felony status, crap work history, education status (not always), or they are just shitty people.
There is a general unprofessional and childish mentality working at those places that I thought was normal when I worked them. When I moved into corporate culture it was difficult for me for like 3-4 years and it took a long time for me to understand that it's a different culture. You don't say off color shit or fuck around. Which I am okay with. I don't have to deal with casual sexual harassment, childish quitting displays, abuse, high school behavior, etc.
There is still some gossip but it's not hard to isolate yourself from it and people who do that shit typically don't last that long.
Quality was mentioned, but I'll add my view. Most everything is disposable now, whether you go with the upgraded option or not. Everyday items, cars, houses, tools, services...we're surrounded by junk.
At Boeing the bean counters took over, look at them now. Most other corporations are doing the same, just with lower stakes.
It's not just stuff--it's interaction too. People are so hooked on throwaway videos, social media, etc that our collective attention span has severely diminished since the internet took hold. I was reading a book recently, and one of the characters described using a tactic of keeping another character off balance in conversation to gain an advantage over them. I feel like this is being done to all of us on the grand scale, intentionally or not.
What I've learned is that these trends will continue until we do something about it. I try to bring what quality and value I can to those around me, pass on what wisdom I've gained, and be a good influence. Even to strangers when possible. It's up to us to carry and keep the torch lit.
Mostly myself. When I was a teenager, I was an insufferable, arrogant shit person. I got better during college and even better after getting my first job, I started to understand better why I was such an arrogant asshole and why people, especially women, really would not rather interact with me.
"Pets are noisy, apartments should allow no tenants with pets". A sincere question: what pet owners, desperately looking for a place to live, should do? Ditch their pets? Abandon them? Throw them out?
One could extrapolate and state that "babies are noisy". After all, they can cry loud. Lots of places don't allow tenants with babies. What a mother with her baby looking for a place to live is supposed to do in such a situation where every landlord denies renting a place to her? What should she do, put her baby into adoption? Throw them out?
Geez. This is one of the many reasons why the modern world is deadwalking towards the cliff nowadays...
I used to not understand how people could spend so much money on a single meal at a really fancy restaurant.
But then, on a special occasion my wife convinced me to go to a Michelin star restaurant. It was amazing, honestly the best "food experience" I've ever had, so many crazy flavours, etc etc.
So now, i can understand why someone might go to a very fancy restaurant once or twice a year. I probably still won't, but I do understand why someone would.
Why we're choosing to destroy ourselves due to catastrophic climate change. I just...I get it now, but there too many facets of it for me to want to list them all right now.
But I understand it. It doesn't make it justifiable, just comprehensive.
The apartments with pets thing, in my building currently there’s an owner who put their dog out in the balcony at night and it would just bark for hours. I sleep at around midnight with barking in the background. I don’t even know until how late it usually does it
I used to not get why someone would buy a physical DVD/Bluray/CD/whatever. Well, now I get it. I’d much rather own it than “own” it.
No buffering, can rip the disc to have a digital copy, offline viewing .etc
I got tired of blu rays somehow:
- trailers at the beginning (skippable)
- copyright and and piracy warning (non skippabale)
- usually no english subs for blu rays bought in germany (original english sound though)
- got one with really bad quality and other versions on the internet looked way better (original the hills have eyes)
- wanted to lend a friend without a blu ray player a few by giving him my old laptop with a blu ray drive. No proper software to play it without fiddeling under linux
- resources and plastic cases (started buying used - but then if it's a really good movie the studio won't receive any support for it)
- players will need updates to be able to handle new encryption keys (never ran into it though bc I keep my PS updated)
Pros:
- the collection looks nice in the shelf
- picking up a movie is usually easier for me than on netflix
- I watched the bonus material after the movie which was often interesting
This is all true with digital rips,... the advantage as far as I'm concerned is uncompromising quality
People always talk about how much wiser you get with age. I didn't really understand this until I hit my 30s. I can't quite explain it, but it's definitely true. I don't feel smarter, I just have all this life experience that has taught me all sorts of things and made me loads more confident. I feel this will continue to get stronger the older I get with the unfortunate side effect of slowing down a bit mentally.
Sadly, a side effect of this is that almost nothing is surprising anymore. The world ceases to be full of intrigue and mystery. The banality of existence becomes a daily demotivator.
That's when you start looking deeper. Pick up birding as a hobby. Start caring for plants. Consider woodworking. Not per se because of the hobby but because you'll start noticing more and more detail everywhere around you.
Exactly. It really depends on the person though. Some people lack imagination and motivation while others keep exploring and opening new doors. Foraging, grafting and no plow, no till gardening are my latest interests.
This is something that has always interested me. Let’s say a group of specialists (in different areas of study) go for a walk through the park together. They’ll each have entirely different thoughts about the walk, simply because they have been trained to notice different things.
Maybe one is an avian biologist, and notices a rare bird; The other specialists don’t even notice that it is extraordinary.
Maybe one is an architect, and notices how the trails are snaked through the park with careful consideration to a specific design style.
Maybe one is a child development specialist, and notices how the playgrounds have been designed to encourage kids to play together with group activities, rather than isolating them with individual activities.
Maybe one is a civil engineer, and notices how the entire park is a former landfill that has been buried, and they can identify many of the strategies that builders used to safely manage things like off-gassing, water runoff, or low spots as garbage breaks down below the park.
Maybe one is an artist, who notices several idyllic spots they could return to with an easel and their pastels.
But the point is that even though they all went on the walk together, they all had vastly different experiences simply because they were trained to notice different details.
Hear, hear! There's so much detail to pick up on!
I compensate for this with telling tales around the fire and playing music. There is always room for more wonder and mystery with those
I'm going to step in and kindly disagree. You're living one life, your own. When you've experienced what you feel that there is to experience and all that, then things stop being personally exciting for you. Everyone's lives is different from one another with shared generalities.
I feel this will continue to get stronger the older I get with the unfortunate side effect of slowing down a bit mentally.
It does, but the other issue is you see the young making the mistakes and you try to warn them using your wisdom, and they either don't understand or don't attempt to and go on with their mistake. With further time, you just let it go and don't mention it at all.
The code stack at my company. At one time, I was confident that I could affect change, add modern features, and make the process form streamlined and user friendly. Now I get to explain our tech debt to our new not yet soulless new hires.
Now I get to explain our tech debt to our new not yet soulless new hires.
To explain the tech debt in the code stack you must first explain what the Perl language its written is to the young new hires.
Just don't tell them about the COBOL running in the back. It'll scare them away.
Perl? Shit man I learned Fortran in college. There's still COBOL systems in active use. At least Perl was invented after keypunchers were deprecated.
We actually still ship Fortran code where I'm at.
(This is totally being said in the Emperor Palpatine's voice)
I thought the worst part of dating was getting my heart broken, but what I remember best are the girls I let down.
Being an ostensibly-male-ish high schooler with a bad grasp of English and good looks had gotten me so much attention.
And every goddamn one of them was disappointed that I was ace and sex-repulsed and didn’t have the vocabulary to express it at the time. They thought I was spurning their advances deliberately!
(Of course, looking back, I bet that none of them actually wanted to be with an incredibly lesbian trans woman. (And yet, somehow, I married an ace trans woman of my own, shit’s nice.) I’m trying to work on not feeling bad that I disappointed those women, and that they found better matches of their own.)
Pardon my ignorance, but "ace"?
A contracted version of “asexual,” those who do not feel sexual attraction.
Asexual.
I didn’t understand the importance of quality and the true premium you pay for certain things. I often would buy the cheapest thing I could find to serve a certain function. After awhile, you find yourself replacing cheap things because they wear out quickly. Buying quality can mean paying a lot more, but it also usually means you don’t have to replace it much, if at all.
I kind of agree with you. I bought my first set of tools extremely cheap, like $25 for a whole tool case. I keep replacing the things I use regularly with better quality stuff, and the things I don’t use often don’t get enough wear to impact usage in the first place. But there are things like my Hilti power drill, which I do not want to fail whatsoever and as such I paid the premium upfront.
I'm finding this on a lot of the "deals" my wife has been finding on the TikTok shop. Piece of junk falls apart, so it inevitably gets replaced with a more expensive one I didn't really need in the first place.
Oh shit. She might be playing me.
I'm a little on the flipside with this one. I'm figuring it out that some of the best things out there, aren't usually the ones that cost a premium. It just boils down to what that something is and whether you want it's best version. Like, some of the brand-names in stores aren't usually some of the best that's out there compared to generic brands. I know this from some of the review videos I've watched like Project Farm on YouTube.
I find this to be true with things like store brand foods but I've found the majority of the time if you buy something you need durability out of, you will regret buying the cheap shit
Single layered toilet paper.
Project Farm absolutely rips
When I was a kid, my mom would tell me stories about some rich/famous people who ended their own lives, and she asked me what I thought about it, I said it was stupid since they're rich and could just enjoy life
Now I have depression. I totally get it. (I mean I'm not rich, but still, I get it.)
🥲
Being rich would be nicer than being poor.
(Depressed on a warm beach with expensive prostitutes sounds better than most things.)
I didn't understand economy before, but now I realize it's because it's basically the world's biggest Texas Sharpshooter Fallacy, for a lack of a better way to say it.
Yep it's mainly because the BS repeated on the media all the time is cherry picked stuff for self serving media owners.
They won't explain the only way they think worth of regulating inflation is making salaries less and unemployment high.
Or why some sectors are highly subsidized but there's no money left for what matters to people, even though the money printing machine has no limits, causes inflation, and is always available when military needs to expand spending.
Or why most "wealthy" economies spend more than they earn and it's ok to have an ever increasing debt even though countries pay dividends on it, which has to come from more debt that has more interest to be paid.
Not even tax brackets are understood correctly and the reason is the less people understand economy the easier to distract from real issues like genocide, money mismanagement, crime, corruption and other common place problems that impact people every day.
There's a wonderful channel that explains many things that go against mainstream, new economic thinking. It's backed by a college. https://youtube.com/@neweconomicthinking
I still don't understand economy.
Its just numbers numbers GDP buzzword buzzword blah blah, I have no idea how it works.
The economy is just people spending money. Is there enough money distributed to enough people who spend enough for enough businesses to employ enough people for enough of them to have enough money to spend? And the money has to trickle up.