Ask Lemmy

Social interaction. It would be nice to not just be so exhausted talking to people. It would be nice to not dread the idea of sending someone a text, like it's some insane mental effort and not the smallest thing. It would be nice to not be lonely but totally unwilling to do what it takes to correct it.

Running. It's the cheapest, easiest form of exercise, but it absolutely bores me to death and i just can't deal with it after 5 minutes.

I don't mind most other forms of exercise, it's just that they all require more time, effort or resources. Going to the gym requires a gym membership, basketball requires friends, etc.

Socializing. There are lots of benefits to being connected, but I just can't stand people. People are the worst, and yeah, that includes me.

Gym exercise.

Cilantro. Fucking soapy-assed tasting bullshit. I want to like you, but genetics won't let me.

Embarrassment humor. It's always sunny. How I met your mother. Arrested development. I think you should leave. I can't stand cringe.

The sound of dogs barking. If I liked that, I‘d be so happy every single day. I‘d wake up and go to sleep to a sound I enjoy. As it is, I will have to move and rent is even more expensive now, just depressing.

Exercise.

Seafood. So many people love it, so many cultures' cuisine centers around it, but OMFG I can't stand the taste.

People, cause love and friendship.

Programming. I have a bunch of ideas that are actually useful for my job, but I can’t seem to keep track of the necessary steps to write the code. ChatGPT has helped me create a couple of programs: a discord bot and a very complex (for me) application that brings in NASA data that automatically runs through Stable Diffusion. The code interpreter is amazing… but there’s too much context I’m missing for these things to be truly fun the way I imagine them to be.

Bananas.

Healthy ✔️ Comes in its own container ✔️ Tasty ✔️

I try one every year thinking this will be my year.

Unfortunately the texture kills me

Getting up early. Ideally even exercising before breakfast.

Social connection. It would be nice if I could be confident and good at making friends with strangers. I have no idea why I feel so lonely when in the crowd and even more lonely when I'm alone.

Career growth. Works keeps telling me for years about how they want to promote me into a new role, but I keep turning them down. Like bruh yeah it's more pay but it's more hours ya know.

I'd rather finish work 5pm everyday then stay back till 8pm for a few grand more which is even worse after tax.

Begin social, wishing to meeting people, not just strangers but friends and family, and feeling good to spend time with them. Because be a grumpy lone wolf dosnt pay off.

Math. I'm embarrassingly bad at math, like can't do it in my head, don't get the math meme jokes, can't add fractions even on paper bad. I took 3 remedial math classes in college before they let me take the one that actually counted for credit. Just thinking about doing math gives me anxiety. I know I could get all sorts of better-paying jobs if I was better at it, but it's like my brain refuses to learn it beyond the basics. I really envy anyone who's good at it.

Coffee, it's just too bitter for me, and by the time I get it tasting okay, it may as well be a dessert. People seem to form half of their personality around how much they love coffee, it makes me feel like I'm missing out.

The Elder Scrolls: Online. TES is easily my favorite game series and I'd absolutely love to soak up all the lore available in ESO.

But I just can't stand an MMO. I don't like seeing other people everywhere. I get that you can solo most of it.

It also just feels less focused on "live another life in another world".

Ive tried it a few times, and there's a lot that's intriguing about it story-wise, but I always end up putting it down pretty quickly. I'm hoping it clicks with me at some point.

Tomatoes.

Tomatoes are in so many recipes, they're healthy, supposedly can even make good snacks.

ABSOLUTELY disgusting. Flavor, texture, smell, all of the above are just repugnant. I hate that's the case.

Reading novels (or just fiction, in general). Not sure why but I simply lost the ability to do it a few years ago. Still like to read a couple of nonfiction books every month, but feel like I'm missing something lately

Lovey dovey feelings. My wife would be much happier if I was more open with them, and it wouldn't be so much work.

Meat - I'm a vegetarian, though I take a lot of interest in cuisine, and while I may not eat meat personally, it's undeniable that it's a core ingredient for so many beloved dishes across the world. Maybe one day lab-grown or plant-based stuff will be able to serve as a common, cheap, and indistinguishable substitute, because I do want to appreciate all the food the world has to offer while sticking to my ideals as much as I can.

Beer

I Think You Should Leave. I feel like something is wrong with me. On paper it should be right up my street and two of my closest friends (both of whom I have a near complete overlap with in comedy tastes) are massive fans but I just don’t get it? I get the jokes but I just don’t laugh. I feel like Bart in that episode of The Simpsons where he sells his soul when I watch it.

Onions. I wish to God I liked onions. Food is so hard for me sometimes because I can't stand them in almost every form. I travel a lot, and the hardest places not to offend anyone food-wise has been southeast Asia. So. Many. ONIONS.

Weed. Every time I try it, I regret it. I feel like with alcohol, I might be uninhibited, but feel in control internally. With weed, I feel like I can’t complete a thought internally and I hate it.

Sauces on foods. No, hear me out! Since I was young any kind of sauce on my food really bothers me. I just can't enjoy it and usually don't eat at all or pick around it if I can't get it removed.

Nearly every menu item and nearly every cuisine includes a sauce, and it's often prepared with the sauce in an unremovable state.

Fortunately it's easier these days than when I was young to order it on the side, so I can just not eat it. But it's a mild inconvenience that I'd never wish on anyone (except my enemies).

Sports. I'd be able to have conversations with neighbors, brother-in-laws, etc.

Pickles. I love fermenting things (beer, bread, yogurt, cheese, jalapeños) but cucumbers are gross in any form.

IPA beers. Most of my friends like them but despite all the different IPAs Ive tried, not a single one of them was particularly enjoyable to drink.

Japanese Natto. Look it up, it's fermented soybean. I can barely be in the same room as it. Yet my Japanese wife and toddler seem to love the stuff and it's healthy and easy to prepare--- when I'm not gagging.

I was really hoping I'd enjoy Baldur's Gate 3. Apparently D&D is something I'm virtually allergic to, I hated the dice, controls, camera, dice, aesthetics at the start, FOMO and the wrong kind of "genre savvy" fucked me up about content getting locked out - basically I immediately hated all of it enough to put me off.

Shame, because it does seem like a seriously awesome game, just not for me.

Coriander/Cilantro.

I have the soapy gene and it would make me look like a total maniac.

Going to the gym... I know it's good for me, I know I should be going but I can't help but feel that I'm wasting my money, only to be doing something less productive that I don't really enjoy doing...

Also watching shows, ik one-piece is probably good, I'm not watching 1000 episodes of anything, no matter how good it is