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[–] 235 points 2 years ago (23 children)

Dunno how I'd have gotten home from school or to soccer practice if I needed an adult, ffs I was staying alone overnight and cooking dinner for myself by 5th grade. How do you acquire independence and skills with someone hovering all the fucking time?

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  • [–] 171 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    we have infantalized children all the way through high school. no more open campuses, nothing. we live in a world where an 18 year old high school senior has to ask to use the restroom during the day, but could go to her night job as a porn star.

    the main issue is parents suing school districts over any little thing, requiring them now to lock everyone down or else

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  • [–] 79 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Nah the real issue is that people will cave in to those helicopter parents making everyone else deal with whatever insanity they force onto their children's

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  • [–] 30 points 2 years ago

    I’ve got 4 kids ages 15 to 3. I’m noticing that the helicoptering I’ve seen from other parents was much worse pre COVID than it is now.

    I remember when my oldest kid was like 3 or 4 and hearing the word playdate for the first time. Hate that word. Sorry I’m rambling lol

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  • [–] 23 points 2 years ago (15 children)

    You don't.

    Source: raised by a single parent who yelled and chased me out of the kitchen anytime I tried asking questions of what he was doing.

    Now 41, and have NO CLUE how to cook.

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    [–] 160 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    "You're guilty of leaving your child alone, therefore we're taking you away from your child."

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  • [–] 136 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    Based on the safety plan including “installing a location tracking app on the child’s phone”, the kid has a phone and could easily call for help or be called if there was a concern.

    Children used to ride bikes much farther then a mile without even a quarter in their pocket to pay for a phone call.

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    [–] 100 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    I started walking to school when I was eight. My parents made sure I knew the way and that was that. And on our bikes we went wayyy farther than a mile unsupervised

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  • [–] 23 points 2 years ago

    On the weekends, it was routine for me to hop on my bike once my chores were done and just take off. The rule was just had to be home by dinner time, or call from whichever friends house I was at if I couldn't make it back in time. No cell phones.

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    [–] 97 points 2 years ago (10 children)

    Americans have degenerated so fast.

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  • [–] 32 points 2 years ago (9 children)

    We BEGAN our existence with slave holding white men who created documents to rule the country which stated "All men are created equally". Then went home, treated the women in their lives like shit for the next 142 years AT LEAST, while also owning slaves.

    Today slavery is mostly abolished, and women have equal rights.

    Believe it or not, this IS progress......really really slow progress.

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  • [–] 78 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    All of Gen-X would like a word...

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    [–] 77 points 2 years ago

    Lol. When I was 10 me and a friend would take a bus TO ANOTHER COUNTRY and hang out at the arena to wait for the teams so we could get our hockey cards autographed.

    I still have that niklas lidstrom rookie card.

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  • [–] 63 points 2 years ago* (7 children)

    A few days later, DFCS presented Patterson with a "safety plan" for her to sign. It would require her to delegate a "safety person" to be a "knowing participant and guardian" and watch over the children whenever she leaves home. The plan would also require Patterson to download an app onto her son's phone allowing for his location to be monitored. (The day when it will be illegal not to track one's kids is rapidly approaching.)

    Of course there's a grift train. I'd be very curious to know more about that company, its owners, and its financials.

    Also tagging @abucci@buc.ci (can someone tell me how to do that right?). Seems like something that might interest you, re: our recent conversation.

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    [–] 61 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (6 children)

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Adam_Walsh

    This is what started this panic. A TV movie dramatization from 1983. At this point current parents largely weren't born yet so they don't even know how it started, they've just been raised into believing this is normal. It's not normal.

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  • [–] 23 points 2 years ago*

    It’s also because most suburbs don’t have sidewalks and cycle paths and often lack safe crossings. Residential roads are so wide that drivers speed all the time. So kids have to be chauffeured around. Since they can’t even walk or cycle to school or soccer practice safely. That’s how it became the norm for kids to never go out alone. And people wonder why kids stay indoors all the time and play videogames or doom scroll on social media.

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    [–] 53 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    What in the sweet ever loving fuck is this shit?

    State mandated helicopter parenting?

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    [–] 52 points 2 years ago (8 children)

    But I thought red states were bastions of freedom?

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    [–] 51 points 2 years ago (2 children)
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    These are the same people who say the left raises kids to be too soft.

    They're raising the most sheltered, fragile, children imaginable. The only thing they'll truly learn is to obey authority, because the only adversity they'll ever face is their parents' rod.

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  • [–] 45 points 2 years ago

    From a boring dystopia to a holy fuck that's scary dystopia.

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  • [–] 45 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Imagine getting jailed unless you ground your kids 24/7. Pretty sure that used to be a punishment for kids, not a requirement.

    I know this is probably not possible if I still wish to use English online, but does anybody know how to filter out news specifically form America? It's becoming less and less relevant to my life as America is becoming more and more like Russia. It's like yea, I know, the people are literal fascists, any additional details are just depressing.

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    [–] 40 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    That would be admitting this country ain't safe enough for a child. Doomer world

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    [–] 35 points 2 years ago

    When I was a kid I got kicked out of the house at 9am on the weekends with no cell phone; now walking less than a mile is grounds for parents to get arrested?

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  • [–] 33 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    By this logic, the movie 'Stand By Me' is kiddie porn.

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    [–] 32 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    Jeez...assuming this is a true story and not embellished..

    Early 90's. Latchkey kid. Come home from school to our Acreage out of town. Get on bike and ride to the nearest corner-store, which was a highway rest-stop a couple of kilometres away. I'd have to (SHOCK) cross the highway AND a railroad track of all things to get there!

    My god why weren't my parents imprisoned!!!!

    Do I need to add the /s tag, or is it clear enough?

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    [–] 30 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    When I was 10, I was riding a bicycle to school 4 miles one way. When I got home, I unlocked the empty house with my own key, took the lunch money my mom had left for me, and rode 12 tramway stops into the inner city to buy lunch at McDonalds.

    I'm not saying that's what it should be like, but I loved it, and I enjoyed my autonomy.

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    [–] 29 points 2 years ago

    He should have driven an F350 there what was she thinking!

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  • [–] 26 points 2 years ago

    My kids of 7 and 10 ride to school through the city (it's about a mile away, but my daughter went to another school 3 miles away before.
    When we got to this new school, I rode with them for a month using different routes and shouting "look left", "stop here", as they weren't looking. Once they were able to lead me to school and back without complaints from mybside for a few times, I let them do it themselves. We just take turns kicking them out in the morning to ensure they're on time. It works, and they will grow into independent people.
    I was cycling wherever the fuck I wanted when I was a kid. I'm fine.
    For the context, we're in Denmark, and I'm originally from Russia

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  • [–] 25 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    When I was 10 i was told to be home when the street lights came on. Otherwise my parents rarely knew where I was. Kids these days aren’t going to be able to function independently when they grow up if they can’t even take a walk on their own.

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago

    Yeah like as if God forbids any kids run around without being continuously tracked by Life360.

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  • [–] 24 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I'm all for protecting kids, but this goes beyond the reasonable boundaries of the nanny state.

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    [–] 24 points 2 years ago

    Reported to police for walking less than a mile into town on a road that was 25 - 35 mph speed limit...

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  • [–] 23 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Damn, I used to walk home from the bus stop that was 1/2 mile away when I was in kindergarten. These people need to calm down.

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