!egg_irl is for widely relatable memes about questioning one's gender or being an egg (a trans person in denial) as well as other eggy topics.
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No bigotry.
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Rules on Content:
No reposts.
No personal-life posts, bingo cards, quizzes, selfies, "trans/not trans" lists, picrew, or non-memes.
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Posts must be titled "egg_irl". An emoji or two is OK, but they have to be between "egg" and "irl".
Posts that assume the viewer's gender and/or contain potentially triggering content must be spoilered and tagged at the beginning of the post title. Example content-warning tags that you can copy include the following:
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Transmasc][CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem][CW: Assumes Viewer is Nonbinary][CW: Transphobia][CW: Violence][CW: Weapons/Firearms][CW: Disturbing Imagery]You may optionally include other tags, such as:
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Add sources for art.
Rules on Comments
If a post is tagged with a specific gender identity, keep the conversation centered on that identity.
You must follow the Egg Prime Directive. You may not push or coerce people into identifying or not identifying a certain way. You must respect them as the gender they claim to identify as. In addition it is extremely in poor taste to make assumptions about other people's identities based on external factors, we understand it cannot be helped but it is best not to as it can affect the way you treat others in noticeable ways.
Recommendations:
We strongly encourage you to include your pronouns in your account bio so that others know how to refer to you without misgendering you. If you're questioning or unsure of your pronouns, that's totally cool—just say so.
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Encouraging gender identity as a choice diminishes the struggle of trans people today. I'm not against it in principle, but the current political climate doesn't have room for this stuff. Give society 20 years to figure out how to be equitable berore peddling this narrative.
Yeah that kind of thing also reinforces gender binary.
I HAVE TO! I have to steal her top!!! Where can I get it!?
I don't know but it is nice. I kinda want one like that too.
I'm transmasc by the way. I know it happens to other femboys and it sucks for them too but for me it feels super invalidating and makes me feel dysphoric to be told I should be a girl ðŸ˜
Maybe there's a silver lining? I'm just a clueless cis guy but for someone to talk to you from that (unkind) angle wouldn't it mean they're assuming you're male, and therefore passing?
You are Hella freaking valid no matter how many sucky experiences you go through. Stay strong ♡
If they're telling you you'd be pretty as a girl rather than mistaking you for one, doesn't that imply you're passing as a guy? Seems to me you could choose to interpret it as validating, in a backhanded way.
(Then again, I'm just a cis guy passing by from "all," so what do I know?)
They're invalidating me saying they think I am a girl, they see me as a girl. Maybe it's nice that I pass as male on some level with them, but they still see me as a girl in some capacity, and that's a lose in my book, since they still treat me like one, call me one, and use she/her pronouns even when I cry and tell them to stop. Also telling me that I can't be a boy because "boys don't like to wear dresses and skirts".
Scotland calls bullshit
you do you, ignore idiots!
Bro, fuck those bigots. I’m sorry, I know it’s easier to nominally have friends even if you hate them in high school, but those people are dumb, close minded, and making you feel bad.
I like to dance contra, which has a long tradition of men wearing skirts. You aren’t locked out of whimsy because you’re a man, neither are you immune to spinniness.
Agreed, though for some of them it's a challenge since they're not just friends but also colleagues and I can't as easily cut them out of my life. I'm stuck dealing with them, for a while anyway. Thank you for the nice words of affirmation.
Damn, I'm sorry that happens to you.