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It's a situation that I have been expecting for a while, but I wasn't fully ready to accept it. Specifically it's one of my LGBTQ friends who honestly believes in the democrats will protect them and their partner. I have tried to make the point that both parties are eroding any sort of civility towards all marginalized groups, but fear seems to drive them more than logical observations. They make the excuse that change doesn't happen over night and that the left continues to grow and will have meaningful affects down the road. I fundamentally just don't agree with that idea and vocalize it regularly. More and more it is ending up in a circular argument where I am painted as unrealistic and my rhetoric (leftist rhetoric) is doing more harm than good because it promotes distrust in the only system we have to work with. I try to tell them it's kind of the whole point. We gotta start somewhere if we want to see a better, more representative system, but they are so hung up on the immediate future while simultaneously saying that my idealistic feelings are shortsighted and I cant expect change in the immediate future... The double-talk is wild, I know.

I am trying my hardest to stop from engaging at this point because on the most basic level we agree on a lot of stuff, but they are just way to wrapped up in the fear mongering of the democratic party. They know that the two party system is broken, they know that something drastic needs to change, but they also think that they are powerless to do anything except choose the lesser evil. It pains me because I am watching them do the same shit past generations have done, where they give up on their ideals for the sake of preserving the current status quo that they benefit from. I am legitimately watching them imply "fuck you, got mine" under the guise of civic duty and I hate it. I want nothing more than to be able to finally say "I told you so" without being a smug asshole about it and ruining our friendship.

Thanks for reading my rant. It's probably a bit disjointed, but the frustration is boiling over and I needed to vent to the only group of people that seems to understand the hopelessness of being a disenfranchised leftist.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (6 children)

I am proably gonna get banned for writing this, but be fucking realistic. I know it isn't perfect, I know other parties exist, and I know the system is corrupt, but man up and deal with it.

The election is near, Trump has a very high chance of winning, and the whole country is on the tipping point of becoming a fascist regime.

Can you please use your brain and think for even just a little bit? Kamala isn't perfect, but in the meantime it's gonna hold together the country, and then you have 4 years to organize and vote for a better party, but in the meanwhile, voting anyone who isn't kamala is voting for Trump.

Go on with the downvotes, I don't care

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 minutes ago

man up

yikes

Trump has a very high chance of winning, and the whole country is on the tipping point of becoming a fascist regime.

Check

Can you please use your brain

Check

I can’t believe you just came in here and roleplayed the exact lib mentality that the thread has been about…

Libs really don’t have any self awareness.

Go on with the downvotes, I don't care

For what it’s worth, Hexbear doesn’t have downvotes, so peddle your Reddit tripes somewhere else please. Also, you do care otherwise you wouldn’t mention it.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

man up

cringe

Kamala isn't perfect

Kamala is happily enabling a genocide and wants the American armed forces to be "the most lethal" in the world.

and then you have 4 years to organize and vote for a better party

I heard this before 2012. And before 2016. And before 2020. I no longer buy the argument.

Go on with the downvotes, I don't care

We here at hexbear can't downvote. You probably will get/have gotten some downvotes, but they haven't been from hexbear.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

I heard this before 2012. And before 2016. And before 2020. I no longer buy the argument.

You failed to organize. The 4 years were given to you, and you (as in the commies living in the US) failed. Time to practice harm reduction and avoid Trump. I'm not from the US nor do I live there, so there's not much I can do.

Kamala is happily enabling a genocide and wants the American armed forces to be "the most lethal" in the world.

And Trump wants to do both that AND a genocide inside the country towards LGBTQ people, women, and black/Hispanic people in general.

Which do you prefer?

EDIT: just now, browsing Lemmy, I came across this article to further prove my point https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2024/oct/17/trump-wins-elections-outcomes-stakes

We here at hexbear can't downvote.

And that's my bad for not knowing it. Sorry.

cringe

If it's because of the implied gender, I'm also sorry and should have chosen a better expression. If it's for the meaning, think again. Not everything is perfect in life and sometimes you need to make compromises. Learn now before it's too late

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I'm sick of arguing with people about electoral politics, so let me just ignore most of your response and address only the end, because maybe I can make a positive difference to your worldview there.

The issue with the phrase "man up" is not only that it implies your interlocutor is a certain gender. That's a bit of an issue, sure, because assuming men are the default humans is pretty misogynist. However, the real misogyny of the phrase is much more insidious than just assuming everyone is a man. What the phrase "man up" does is inextricably tie strength of character to manhood and masculinity. And that's misogynist tripe. Womanhood and femininity have as much strength inherent in them as manhood and masculinity. Men are not morally stronger than women, so exhorting someone to moral strength by telling them to be more like a man is full on misogyny. Yes, it's the type that's so normalized in our culture that you can be forgiven for not seeing it, especially if you yourself are a man (which you may or may not be, I don't know). But please, excise the phrase "man up" from your vocabulary.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Completely agree on that one. I always try to not imply anything, but being a white man, sometimes things slip thru. Sorry.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 hours ago

Hey, I'm sorry, but I need to hammer this in, because brainworms burrow deep and I'd like to make sure you understand yours. The issue isn't simply that you implied something you didn't mean to imply, that's true so far as it goes, but the more important part is what you implied. That's the problem. If you take away from this experience "I need to write more carefully on the internet so people don't read anything into what I've written" that's an ok lesson, but it isn't the one I'm hopeful you'll learn. My hope is that you'll come away with something more like "wow, I seem to have some internal feeling that men are morally stronger than women, I wonder where that came from and how I can go about unlearning this feeling."

I want you to deprogram the underlying misogyny, not just learn to disguise it better, you know? Still, thanks for admitting fault, that's hard to do on the internet.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

but in the meantime it's gonna hold together the country

Have you considered that Kamala's worthless neo liberal economic policy, racist border policy, and hawkish right wing foreign policy will ensure fascism? A vote for for Kamala is a vote for 4 years of stagnant decline and imperial embarrassment that brought about trump in the first place, ripe for a competent fascist to step in

Go on with the downvotes, I don't care

Libs consider this bravery

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

Racist border policy?

By voting third party you're helping the man who built a fucking wall next to Mexico, and you are also helping him deregulate every single industry that's willing to give him money, creating an economic policy that's far worse then you could ever imagine. Your vote for a third party isn't showing any support to anyone whatsoever right now, it's just helping Trump.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

By supporting Dems you're helping the party that literally helped build a fucking wall next to Mexico, proposed hundreds of millions for expanding it, deregulate every single industry that's willing to give them money, oversaw the destruction of Roe v Wade, and countless billions on funding genocide and overseas war. The Democrats are trying to create a whole new border agency dedicated to ripping people out of their homes, just to prove how hard they are on immigration. Your support for Dems isn't showing any support to anyone whatsoever right now, it's just helping genocide and oppression.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (1 children)

and yet it's still better then what Trump wants to do.

Yes, they helped build the wall, but Trump decided to make it.

to my knowledge, there wasn't any major deregulation from the dems, much unlike what Trump wants to do (and Elon would be very happy to explain to you how that's good, so you know it's bad)

Yes, they oversaw the destruction of Roe V Wade, and yet it's still nothing compared to the anti-lgbtq, anti-women laws that trump will pass once elected

Yes, they sent billions abroad for war

and you'll never guess what

Trump sent just as much

so, choose your poison, and be realistic. (To the US citizens who are reading this, since you said you're not). No third party's gonna save you, at least this election, so practice good harm reduction, vote blue, and avoid a second Trump term

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Yeah and trump is still better than electing a dog with rabies. If your baseline is "here's a worse candidate" then you can clap for anything. It's also completely debateable wether he'll be worse. You are handwaving away several things as being insignificant, that aren't.

and yet it's still better then what Trump wants to do.

They deported more people.

Yes, they oversaw the destruction of Roe V Wade, and yet it's still nothing compared to the anti-lgbtq, anti-women laws that trump will pass once elected

Bills that will pass anyway because the dems don't give a shit about any of it. At least with Trump people like you went out to fight against it.

Yes, they sent billions abroad for war and you'll never guess what Trump sent just as much

Do you think this is an argument for the dems? Yes they are just as bad, glad we agree.
Trump also oversaw the agreement to finally pull out of Afghanistan. The Biden regime decided the best way to help afghanis were to freeze all foreign assets. I'm sure the people being ruled over by taleban are grateful they also get to starve and their state has no money to finance renovations.

to my knowledge, there wasn't any major deregulation from the dems, much unlike what Trump wants to do

Apart from the tariffs on cheap EVs and solar cells and the union busting and the decreased requirements for freight trains which have led to seceral catastrophies? There's definitely way more, I just can't be arsed to look them up for a person I know will come with some dumbshit smuglord response.

so, choose your poison, and be realistic

The realistic option is to not normalize genocide. Voting for someone who is actively commiting a genocide will make things far worse than electing a guy who is like all the others, just a bit more obvious about it. The realistic option is to not give legitimacy to rulers who do these things. The realistic option is not to do something that has only yielded terrible results. Your line of argument has been trotted out since Nixon for gods sakes, and even then it was old!

"That's the real issue this time," he said."Beating Nixon. It's hard to even guess how much damage those bastards will do if they get in for another four years."
The argument was familiar, I had even made it myself, here and there, but I was beginning to sense something very depressing about it. How many more of these goddamn elections are we going to have to write off as lame, but "regrettably necessary" holding actions? And how many more of these stinking double-downer sideshows will we have to go through before we can get ourselves straight enough to put together some kind of national election that will give me and the at least 20 million people I tend to agree with a chance to vote for something, instead of always being faced with that old familiar choice between the lesser of two evils?
Now with another one of these big bogus showdowns looming down on us, I can already pick up the stench of another bummer. I understand, along with a lot of other people, that the big thing this year is Beating Nixon. But that was also the big thing, as I recall, twelve years ago in 1960 – and as far as I can tell, we've gone from bad to worse to rotten since then, and the outlook is for more of the same.*

  • Hunter S. Thompson Fear And Loathing: On The Campaign Trail '72
[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

I'm not voting 3rd party I'm voting for Hillary, she's a Democrat

A vote for Kamala in 2024 is a vote for the competent fascist to rise in 2028

[–] [email protected] 10 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

People have been making your argument for decades. Every single fucking election it's widely claimed we're on the "tipping point", people everywhere said it last time with Trump, and what did he do when he got into power? Largely just continued the status quo of making everything gradually worse.

If anyone thinks voting remotely matters and they want change, they should vote third party. But as always, I don't think voting will change anything no matter what.

Take half the fucking effort you put into this "Vote for genociders or get fascism" shit and put it into organising or direct action.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

people constantly claim we're on the tipping point because we are. Project 2025 has planned out every single step to ruin the country for everyone but the 1%, and if Trump can't make it, someone else will. Last time Trump was unorganized and still caused massive chaos (Jan 6? Mexico wall anyone?). Republicans need to only win once to turn everything for the worse, and you are literally helping them. You had 4 years to get people to vote third party, and you failed. Now is time for harm reduction. Vote blue, especially if you're in one of the swing states, and help everyone out like a true commie.

Take half the fucking effort you put into this "Vote for genociders or get fascism" shit and put it into organising or direct action.

I don't live in the US, it was your (as in the commie people living there) job to organize, I just care about people's well-being in general and recognize Trump's distopian hellscape.

Kamala isn't perfect, nobody is, not even you, but it's currently the best chance America has.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 39 minutes ago)

people constantly claim we're on the tipping point because we are.

That's what they said the last time and the time before that and that and that and that and that and that. There's alwys something that makes it so we just have to accept this rotten dog of a candidate. If the rule you followed has brought you to this, of what use was the rule?
Furthermore whenever the dems do win, what is said of the left? "Oh turns out we didn't need them at all!" What happens when they lose? Then it is the fault of the left. We were on the tipping point last time as well and the dems have had 4 years to do something about it, you failed. Why should we vote for someone who will do nothing to take us back from the alleged brink we're at?

You had 4 years to get people to vote third party, and you failed.

The country was on the precipice of destruction last election and the one before that and so on. The dems have had decades to pull us back from the alleged brink. They have now had 4 years in power, yet here we are once again. You failed. The dems are looking to lose to Donald Trump, yet somehow we failed? The dems lost a massive lead to Donald Trump, you failed. If you are a realist, then accept reality.
Why should people vote for a party that constantly cries wolf, yet never does anything about the wolf apart from copying the wolfs' policies, working with the wolf, calling for bipartisanship with the wolf party, bragging about how much more wolf-like they are than the wolf party and so on?

There's plenty of people voting third party or voting uncommited or abstaining from voting. Seems to me it has worked out completely well. I can imagine it's hard to understand when you are only ever thinking about the current election and never what happened in the past or what the future brings, but most things aren't done in a few years. I'm honestly impressed with how these movements are developing, considering the amount of ratfucking they've been subjected to.

Vote blue, especially if you're in one of the swing states, and help everyone out like a true commie.

You really do not understand politics, do you?

Kamala isn't perfect, nobody is, not even you, but it's currently the best chance America has.

Did you think you had something here? "Nobody is perfect" is the dems ole-faithful. You can't go pobodys nerfect about genocide.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

Trump did bad things. So have the Dems. And sincerely describing someone who actively supports genocide as "not perfect" just shows what a disingenuous lib you are. Your version of "harm reduction" has, for decades, done nothing but emphasize and prolong the harm.

I don't live in the US either. I just care about people's wellbeing in general. You should recognise that literally wherever on the planet you live, that organising and doing direct action would be more productive than telling people anywhere that voting matters. What a fucking waste of political energy.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (2 children)

organising and doing direct action

I'm happy where my country stands at, thanks.

Your version of "harm reduction" has, for decades, done nothing but emphasize and prolong the harm.

Right, so let's elect the guy who will do imminent and immediate harm, and a lot more of it, because that's better obviously

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2024/oct/17/trump-wins-elections-outcomes-stakes

just shows what a disingenuous lib you are

I am a realist. The genocide, at least for now, won't stop, but we have the power to not make it worse. What do you chose?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago) (2 children)

I'm happy where my country stands at, thanks.

There it is. "I don't care about anyone else, I like how my life is and want the status quo". Do direct action and organise to help OTHERS, if your country is a super paradise then do direct action to pressure your government into condemning genocide. Sadly I think you won't ever resort to actually doing something to help.

It's not worth engaging, really. You clearly know all this and actually just don't give a fuck.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 minutes ago

Based on the TLD of their instance, it’s even funnier for them to say that.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

I do care for people, hence why I'm writing here, in the hope of convincing even one person to vote the right person, since physically going there isnt feasible.

pressure your government into condemning genocide.

what if they already did? the US is such a huge economical power that no-one but themselves can push it towards a better future, and all the third party voters are doing is assuring that the genocide is gonna continue under Trump's regime (since that's basically what it is apparently, thank SCOTUS)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago

I do care for people, hence why I'm writing here, in the hope of convincing even one person to vote the right person, since physically going there isnt feasible.

point-and-laugh-1point-and-laugh-2 YOU ARE DOING LESS THAN THE BARE MINIMUM YOU ARE ARGUING WITH STRANGERS ONLINE OH MY GOD AND YOU ACTUALLY BELIEVE YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING! THIS IS FUCKING FUNNY HAHAHAHAHA
If you actually cared you'd spend the freetime you have to volunteer for a cause, the dems need people so go do something for them, since you care so much lmao. This isn't for anyone, you're doing this for you, because your brain gives you sweet sweet serotonine when you argue with strangers online

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

I'm happy where my country stands at, thanks.

The country is currently, according to you, on the tipping edge of something cataclysmic and you're happy with that? Lmao

Right, so let's elect the guy who will do imminent and immediate harm, and a lot more of it, because that's better obviously

As opposed to the lady who will do imminent and immediate harm, but where dorks like you go outside and fight against it?

I am a realist. The genocide, at least for now, won't stop, but we have the power to not make it worse. What do you chose?

lenin-laugh You've been told quite a few times what people choose. A realist would accept the reality of the situation. A realist also wouldn't have this idealistic dogmatic adherence to decades old arguments about "aw shucks just this one time we need to do it, because the other guy is actually way worse and way different"
In your case the realistic option would be to acknowledge that your candidate has a better chance of winning the election if she stops supporting a genocide, and instead of arguing with leftists online you put your energy towards pushing your candidate to make those concessions. What do you choose?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 4 hours ago) (1 children)

man up

Eat shit

I dont care

Suuuure

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 hour ago

Jesus fucking christ you are dumber than a doorknob. Go back to reddit where they pretend to give a shit about civility. An ad hominem isn't "when someone insults you" you massive dumbass. Go back to school. An ad homimen is when you tie the character of a person (in your case that would be "poor") to the quality of their argument (in your case your arguments are also poor) as a way to discredit them instead of refuting them. "You are an idiot and therefore your argument is idiotic" <- That's an ad hominem!
In case you're wondering this also isn't an ad hominem, though it's a fallacy of some kind. Insulting you is just an insult, you hollow log of a person. Learn what fallacies are and eat shit and die

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

and the whole country is on the tipping point of becoming a fascist regime.

Why would I, a red fascist hate this?

[–] [email protected] -1 points 4 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

because Trump is leading it, and last time I checked, industry deregulation and even more privatization of the public sector wasn't something the communist values stood for

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 8 minutes ago)

´because Trump is leading it

You've had 4 years to prepare for this. Sounds like you failed

The communist values

Please read a book I'm begging you. Start with settlers

[–] [email protected] 16 points 12 hours ago (3 children)

I recently heard 'genocide is a good option because it will promote long term peace'

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago

Can't have war if you genocide all races think-about-it

[–] [email protected] 37 points 17 hours ago (13 children)

I know people say not to cut off the lib friends and I'm trying not to lose connections that have mattered to me, but it is hard to make myself bother with most of them anymore. I feel like they are just demonstrating they can't be relied upon.

What am I saying, their complete return to "normal" and pretending covid isn't dangerous is 100% demonstrating they can't be trusted

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