It's a situation that I have been expecting for a while, but I wasn't fully ready to accept it. Specifically it's one of my LGBTQ friends who honestly believes in the democrats will protect them and their partner. I have tried to make the point that both parties are eroding any sort of civility towards all marginalized groups, but fear seems to drive them more than logical observations. They make the excuse that change doesn't happen over night and that the left continues to grow and will have meaningful affects down the road. I fundamentally just don't agree with that idea and vocalize it regularly. More and more it is ending up in a circular argument where I am painted as unrealistic and my rhetoric (leftist rhetoric) is doing more harm than good because it promotes distrust in the only system we have to work with. I try to tell them it's kind of the whole point. We gotta start somewhere if we want to see a better, more representative system, but they are so hung up on the immediate future while simultaneously saying that my idealistic feelings are shortsighted and I cant expect change in the immediate future... The double-talk is wild, I know.

I am trying my hardest to stop from engaging at this point because on the most basic level we agree on a lot of stuff, but they are just way to wrapped up in the fear mongering of the democratic party. They know that the two party system is broken, they know that something drastic needs to change, but they also think that they are powerless to do anything except choose the lesser evil. It pains me because I am watching them do the same shit past generations have done, where they give up on their ideals for the sake of preserving the current status quo that they benefit from. I am legitimately watching them imply "fuck you, got mine" under the guise of civic duty and I hate it. I want nothing more than to be able to finally say "I told you so" without being a smug asshole about it and ruining our friendship.

Thanks for reading my rant. It's probably a bit disjointed, but the frustration is boiling over and I needed to vent to the only group of people that seems to understand the hopelessness of being a disenfranchised leftist.

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[–] 80 points 2 years ago (2 children)

The Matrix is a system, Neo. That system is our enemy. But when you're inside, you look around, what do you see? Businessmen, teachers, lawyers, carpenters. The very minds of the people we are trying to save. But until we do, these people are still a part of that system and that makes them our enemy. You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on the system, that they will fight to protect it.

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  • [–] 73 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    a lot of people want to believe someone is coming to save them.

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  • [–] [S] 44 points 2 years ago

    100%

    It takes a special kind of cynicism (which i have attained) to understand that most people gives a shit about each other, especially the people with any sort of power.

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  • [–] 60 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    For me it's the whole "the left is continuing to grow"

    Liberals have been shifting to the right for years. The democratic president is endorsed by dick fucking cheyney, is running on more cruelty on the border, and has completely given up even discussing universal Healthcare, and has completely dropped the ball on abortion.

    The liberals are objectively getting worse which is to be expected when their main strategy is justnconceding to republicans on everything.

    And it doesn't even bother liberals, they'll tell you with a straight face that bidens the most pro environemnt pro union president in history you can tell them "were drilling more oil than anyone ever anywhere and every time there's a strike you liberals keep saying it's a Russian hoax to hurt democrats"

    And they just roll their eyes and fucking act like they're so morally superior your real world examples don't count.

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  • [–] [S] 54 points 2 years ago (5 children)

    And they just roll their eyes and fucking act like they're so morally superior your real world examples don't count.

    UUUUUUUGH!

    Yeah its the smugness that gets me the most. Especially my debate lord friends where I almost hear the deep inhale they take before spouting off about the systemic limits.... Of systems they refuse to uproot out of fear of losing access to amazon prime.

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    [–] 54 points 2 years ago (8 children)

    I’m just grateful for my friend who listens to my rants and admits I know way more about it than him.

    Unfortunately he’s still just voting for Kamala shrug-outta-hecks

    Every time we hang out is basically:

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  • [–] 28 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    We don't drink much these day but I do turn into this when I'm drunk. I remember back before we were married, my wife's best friend used to call me "your communist boyfriend."

    Good thing we don't drink a lot now, in the current political climate I'd probably jump on the Hamas love train and death to (various evil entities) slogans too hard and get "your terrorist supporting husband" instead.

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    [–] 48 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    I know people say not to cut off the lib friends and I'm trying not to lose connections that have mattered to me, but it is hard to make myself bother with most of them anymore. I feel like they are just demonstrating they can't be relied upon.

    What am I saying, their complete return to "normal" and pretending covid isn't dangerous is 100% demonstrating they can't be trusted

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  • [–] 34 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    people say not to cut off the lib friends

    I think this is honestly just a big cope from people. I know how seriously they take their convictions when they say stuff like this because my militant masking and insistence on accomodations as an immunocompromised person since January 2020 has utterly destroyed my social life and I don't just get to turn the other cheek about that, lol. So yeah, I'm with you. Fuck em. Your world will become far smaller, but what world? A world of people who will abandon you for this? For genocide? For an evening at Applebees? Kill the liberalism in your soul that makes you want to poison yourself in the company of these people and you can begin to figure out how to live.

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  • [–] 26 points 2 years ago (12 children)

    their complete return to "normal" and pretending covid isn't dangerous

    "Trust the science" liberals like when the "science" is skewed so it sounds like wine is a health and longevity supplement (it's not; those old studies were bullshit ignored the other material conditions of the healthy and long lived people) and that covid is "over." Basically, trust in the "science" that says more treats.

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    [–] 43 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Talking to some friends last night and people were like "it has no right to be this close!" With like a tinge of fear. Just want to yell whose fault is that? Why doesn't Harris do ANYTHING to address the mountains of concerns people have... No it's allllllll stupid magas.

    Another literally made the but she'll do less genocide argument

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  • [–] [S] 32 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    fuckin a... I have very similar conversations over here too. Victim blaming the disenfranchised and touting an aura of superiority over the "dumb magas"

    i die a little inside when people try to absolve Kamala of the crimes of Joe... I tried to make the point that her being a part of the administration means she supports it, there is no nuance imo.

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  • [–] 33 points 2 years ago (2 children)

    Like you could make some sort of argument that she could be partially absolved... If she did ANYTHING to indicate her resistance. She could trash bidens policies publicly. She could speak via the media directly to Bibi and say that once she's elected she'll immediate stop all shipments. She could illegal-to-say the entire white House.

    She doesn't so she's chill with it and gets no absolution.

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  • [–] 41 points 2 years ago (6 children)

    I don't get it, look at what they've been saying about the palestinian genocide, then look at what they're doing. How could anyone trust them??

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    [–] 38 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I only have a few friends who aren't lib brain poisoned. they have been hard to find, as some of the "leftists" are just about aesthetics and don't engage with any theory, so the glom onto whatever lib talking point reaches them on a visceral level and then regurgitate it whenever the topic is broached. i.e. "the country has right to defend itself"

    the genocide in the Middle East has been more galvanizing than most and I really can't engage honestly with those who downplay it to save their own asses from an imagined genocide of their comfortable, financially secure, upper income asses within the highly developed core. like, sorry reality can't compete with the untethered nightmares of libs.

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  • [–] [S] 31 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    he genocide in the Middle East has been more galvanizing than most and I really can't engage honestly with those who downplay it to save their own asses from an imagined genocide of their comfortable, financially secure, upper income asses within the highly developed core. like, sorry reality can't compete with the untethered nightmares of libs.

    Exactly this, I am very hung up, and rightfully so, on the fact that America is aiding and abetting atrocities right now, live on TV. That doesn't mean I think the threat on other marginalized groups is less important. Yes, I think that right wing american politicians are edging at the idea of waging war against LGBTQ people, and thats why I am critical of both mainstream parties. However, the libs think that being critical of democrats will further erode the faith people have in them and drive them towards the republicans.

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  • [–] 29 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    one of the principles I hold to with left/liberatory politics is "an attack on one is an attack on all" which is why I just can't accept some people saying "no, that actual attack on those other people isn't as big of a deal as the attack I imagine is coming for me."

    it's a toxic, wrecker-brained bullshit, ahistorical, and anti-solidarity. they are choosing to sell some humans down the river to theoretically protect themselves in the immediate near future, as though that has ever worked out.

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  • [–] 36 points 2 years ago (13 children)

    I am painted as unrealistic

    This shit gets me. I get called "too idealistic" and my response is what does that even mean? I think it's too idealistic for the few to benefit from the work of the many. Seems unsustainable which fits right in to the definitions of idealistic. I think it's idealistic for the Dems to expect a vote when they can't give even token concessions. "Unrealistic" get the fuck out of here 70 years ago we'd be blowing ourselves up in a world war for some crusty declining nobles (and soon we might be told to do it again!) now we watch complete strangers appear to entertain us for 30 seconds and evaporate forever on tiktok wtf do we know about realistic.

    This hollow "community" of Democrats will happily cannibalize anyone without a second thought. The least I expect from my lib friends is to vote third party or shut up. Capitalism is a disease. Thanks for ranting so I could rant too

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    [–] 34 points 2 years ago (4 children)

    Dunno what level of comfort your friend is at, but it really does affect how they react. It's really hard to find real connection for those of us living in Anglo countries.

    I feel you. My convos with libs seem like I'm talking to a computer chat bot, the empathy and concern that I'd expect from a real person isn't there. Honestly I usually just limit my lib convos to something simple. For real connections, I find that people become better the further you go from the group in power. So look at middle class cishet white men, and go 180 from there. It's pretty hard to find a genuine person with 3 or more of the above characteristics, although I'm sure that exceptions exist.

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  • [–] [S] 29 points 2 years ago (14 children)

    Yeah, I have had zero luck so far finding anyone in my life that feels the way I do. I am accepting the fact that I will need to hold my tongue unless I want all the smoke that comes with upsetting lib sensibilities. I have cut plenty of chuds out of my life already, but I know my lib friends are leaps and bounds better and don't deserve the axe yet. However, they are still not at the level they need to be in order to understand or accept my positions on things.

    The thing that kills me the most is when I am told that my positions are detrimental to the greater good. Which in their misguided minds is merely keeping the status quo intact.

    It's especially miserable because like I said, they are a gay couple who fears the GOP's outward anti-lgbtq rhetoric more than the DNC's covert anti-lgbtq rhetoric. The specific trigger this time around was the Texas governor that blew a dog whistle about gender in sports. My friend brushed it off as "one democrat doesn't represent all of them", which sounded way to much like thin blue line apologia at this point.

    At the end of the day, I am realizing that more people than i thought are actually just run of the mill libs. There is nothing I can do really besides wait for conditions to slide further right and hope they realize it too.

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    [–] 30 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    Change never arrives because the people who own the rest of us suddenly feel charitable.

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  • [–] 29 points 2 years ago* (5 children)

    Yeah I was about to make a similar post - just had a big debate with some older family friends at a party my parents had that are die-hard dems (which was nice, as they're way further left then most other people there).

    They were aghast when I said I wasn't voting blue, and had no idea who Claudia or the PSL are, of course.

    Got a lot of "this is the most important election ever" and "if he wins democracy is over" of course. But the one that really chapped my biscuits was saying that if he wins, then [my family member] will lose access to reproductive health care and IVF in particular.

    So I said yeah right, neither side is going to change a damn thing about that, because they both see it as way too valuable of a carrot/stick to give up campaigning and fundraising on it. If the dems care so much about it, why haven't they actually done anything about it?

    "Well Biden's wanted to, but he's been hamstrung by the extremist right!"

    So what about those years when he had full congressional majority?

    "Oh well yeah, I mean I guess he could have done more there..."

    And then we got called away to the rest of the party and never got to continue.

    Bonus points for my insistence that both parties intend on continuing the genocide - but ofc he is going to do it worse somehow. When I said I'm not going to vote for Genocide Light™️, they said, "Hell yeah I am! It's better than the other option!", and I sadly beat a dead horse a little more about there actually being more options available and maybe you actually don't have to put your stamp of approval on genocide-with-rainbow-flag-characteristics.

    Also bonus-bonus points for one of the two (very sweet, kickass person generally) asking "So what does genocide mean again?" in a completely honest, non-hostile way, indicating that they simply had not engaged with even the thought of such a thing happening before this conversation.

    And these are the two that always get in trouble for being too vocal about their left-ish political opinions at these functions. agony-soviet

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    [–] 29 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 child)

    More and more it is ending up in a circular argument where I am painted as unrealistic and my rhetoric (leftist rhetoric) is doing more harm than good because it promotes distrust in the only system we have to work with.

    Noticing genocide is more socially unacceptable than committing it. Also, even recognizing a system is dehumanizing, don'tchaknow.

    Thanks for reading my rant. It's probably a bit disjointed, but the frustration is boiling over and I needed to vent to the only group of people that seems to understand the hopelessness of being a disenfranchised leftist.

    Right there with you. It's lonely enough already without having to worry about losing friends, and it hardly feels like I'm doing everything I can to fight back against the genociders when I can't even talk about it with my loved ones or get them on the right side.

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    [–] 29 points 2 years ago (15 children)

    Honest question: How do people reconcile their approaches to these situations with what Combat Liberalism instructs? Because Mao says fuck your discomfort and yell at people.

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  • [–] 40 points 2 years ago

    It's been awhile since I've read Combat Liberalism, but I thought the context of that was for disputes between people in the same party or organization. If it's someone who's a friend but otherwise isn't struggling alongside you to build communism, I'm not sure what the point of being super insistent on ideological correctness would be.

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    [–] 26 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    More and more it is ending up in a circular argument where I am painted as unrealistic and my rhetoric (leftist rhetoric) is doing more harm than good because it promotes distrust in the only system we have to work with.

    As much as I hate conservatives, you can at least level with them on the front of not trusting their government. They end up as hypocrites and fall in line with any real challenge to American hegemony, however, you can at least get them to admit the system doesn't function well for everyone.

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    [–] 26 points 2 years ago* (5 children)

    Not everyone around me in the northeast is friendly, let alone a comrade, but I'm very glad to be far away from Silicon Valley liberals at long last.

    I was very nearly approaching explosive-shouting-replies to the smug, arrogant, and even occult shit they'd keep saying to me, unprompted and unsolicited, especially after dae le epic "AI" hype waves took off.

    https://futurism.com/openai-employees-say-firms-chief-scientist-has-been-making-strange-spiritual-claims

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    [–] 25 points 2 years ago* (1 child)

    Cut ties with everyone who watches corporate media (i.e. regularly ingests Western propaganda) during campaign seasons. Don't waste your sanity on people participating in synthetic social hysteria.

    You can probably talk to them again a month after the election - especially if their preferred capitalist oligarch "wins".

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  • [–] [S] 27 points 2 years ago

    Yeah, I'm taking a less extreme option of avoiding certain topics that I know will scratch them. I am not excusing their bad opinions, I'm just not interested in the circular conversations and eventual belittling of my "unrealistic" or "Idealist" expectations anymore.

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  • [–] 24 points 2 years ago*

    Just point out the last time any progressive legislation was ever written at the federal level was gay marriage and bring them crashing down to earth. The party has zero interest in actually using the power it has to do good for everyone, they are content to fuck over everyone that isn't in a blue state, and everyone in blue states will be fucked over eventually. This isn't a case of IF, it's a case of WHEN, and that only by reckoning with this reality and committing to working for the change that is sorely needed can marginalised peoples truly get on the correct strategic path. The current strategic path being pushed is a dead end and the liberals are content to continue mis-selling it to you because you choose to be naive as a result of the very understandable fear that reckoning with this instills.

    Their claims that we are shortsighted and idealist are projections of the naivity they know they are choosing because it's the only hope they have.

    This is also a failure of the left though btw. The left is not offering hope, and until the left finds a way to offer hope people will continue to choose naivity if it feels like a possible hope to them.

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  • [–] 24 points 2 years ago (3 children)

    Honesty I’ve learned to just shut the fuck up about politics when talking to PoC or LGBTQ friends. For some reason a straight white guy saying “ACTUALLY YOU WILL LIKELY NEVER BE TRULY SAFE IN OUR LIFETIME” is not received well.

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    [–] 23 points 2 years ago (1 child)

    I’m sorry, that’s really hard.

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  • [–] [S] 27 points 2 years ago

    It's frustrating and disheartening. We used to see eye to eye on most things, but the tinge of fear has reacted differently in us. I became way more radicalized about the declining state of affairs since the beginning of COVID, most of the people around me found easy scapegoats and then moved on as soon as they could.

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