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For some reason I find vests, and specifically down vests very comfortable. I know that some of you have problems with polyester though, so I'd love to hear about your comfy clothes! (I kinda wanna test out some new stuff)

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 months ago (2 children)

100% cotton in layers.

I like loose clothes - baggy chinos or cargo pants (or shorts made out of old pants that have started ripping out at the knees) and t-shirts, henleys, chamois work shirts, zippered (never pullover) hooded sweatshirts and down vests. I add layers in the fall (I generally max out at six in the dead of winter) and subtract them in the spring.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (3 children)

Do you feel more comfortable with less or more layers? I personally always keep my thinner jacket on me cuz i don't like seeing my hairy arms...

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Shaveing them is an option. I (30M) just did for my legs. Fuck societal norms, do what you feel is right for you.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Trust me, I'm on it!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

More, definitely.

Even in the summer, as soon as I can get away with it, I go to a second layer. I prefer two light layers over one heavy one.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I don't like exposing my arms/wrists for whatever reason when I'm in public. At home I'm usually okay with it but sometimes prefer to wear another layer just for that reason. That's something I look out for as well, extra long sleeves

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

That's my go-to as well, loose fit and lots of cotton layers. For the colder seasons, if there's at least 2 layers of tshirt and longsleeve I also throw some woolen pieces and a down vest on top, it's surprisingly warm, breathy and comfy to wear even if it's minus degrees out.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I like wool, but I don't currently own any. It's of very limited use, since it itches abominably.

It strikes me though - I should keep my eyes open for a good, heavy wool cardigan. In the winter, I wear some number of t-shirts/henleys plus a chamois shirt and a hooded sweatshirt, then some top layer - either a down vest or coat. A big, heavy wool cardigan would work well for that top layer too.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

pure Cashmere or Cashmere-Wool blend is usually not as itchy (I am similarily sensitive) and work great as a in-between layer. No turtlenecks! I own a Cashmere Hoodie for instance, which is great. Unfortunately a bit more pricey but keeps you a long way if you take care of it. I lost the perfect heavy woolen cardigan to a washing accident, so need to find a new one too :/

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 months ago (1 children)

100% cotton T-shirts made of heavy weight fabric. The early 90s absolutely spoiled me on this, it used to be much more typical for T-shirts to be cotton and have a good weight to them rather than the tissue paper polyester T-shirts that are so common now.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Which are the places you buy your Tshirts etc. from? I found buying Merch/Band-Shirts (men's) a good source for heavy weight 100% cotton T's and Longsleeves. Hoodies too sometimes if you're lucky, but it can be extremely difficult to find the same quality in Hoodies. I always start sweating like crazy in synthetic kind, feeling so uncomfortable I can't think straight. Same for jogging pants and gym wear.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Honestly I get most of my stuff secondhand, the shirt I’m wearing right now came from a vintage shop. If anyone knows any brands that makes good, heavy tees still I would love to know as well.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 months ago (1 children)

100% cotton.

I find wool to be incredibly itchy and hate the coarse texture of jeans.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

I absolutely fucking HATE jeans

Was forced to wear them for work for over a year, now I wear whatever the hell I feel like at home.

Mostly cotton or cotton spandex mix for me

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

Underclothes need to be tight fitting, either cotton or bamboo, because I need that feeling of slight pressure and knowing "where my body ends". Outer clothes I prefer to be soft and airy as well but they can be loose fitting.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

The baggier the better.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

As a completely normal male: leggings around the house, and skinny jeans with a little stretch. And a hoodie. I hate loose pants and sweatpants.

And I’ve been wearing the same style low top Nike skateboarding shoes for a decade. I’ve bought them multiple times

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Love me some leggings as well. What are your jeans recommendations/go-to’s?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I like the stretch skinny jeans at old navy. They’re the perfect match of worn in feeling without looking worn in.

I must say I am male, if that makes a difference

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Thanks for the recommendation!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago

Sweat pants and hoodies with high cotton-percentage

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

Oh damn. Okay, realizing that a lot of my “pickiness” with clothes was actually a ‘tism thing opened a lot of doors, but also turned into a bit of a rollercoaster. I started my transition at the same time as it really clicked I was neurodivergent so my desires to explore fashion I felt I had been robbed of clashed with my sensory stuff.

I prefer tighter under-things, not going into detail why, but hopefully y’all can piece it together. Most of my shirts are 100% cotton, mostly looser and cropped shorter because I’ve got a tiny torso. I hate it when I feel like a shirt is sticking around my hips and has to pull itself up when I lean/twist. So loose flowy tops generally, unless I’m going for a specific fashion moment. This extends to bras. Usually softer “t-shirt” bras, but I can put up with something less comfortable so long as I look particularly good in it and I’m not wearing it for a full day.

Pants have been a journey. I used to get really bad eczema on the backs of my knees, so for a long time I only wore shorts. Year round, rain, shine, snow. Jeans in particular were a real struggle as a kid. I grew out of my eczema, so I’ve forced myself to at least try a lot of the pants I hated as a kid again. This made me discover the wonderful world of second hand jeans. The big reason I couldn’t handle jeans as a kid was I would be trying new, un-broken in, jeans, and they are just waaaaayyyyy too scratchy.

Outer layers. Idk, so long as my base is comfy, I use outer layers as fashion opportunities.

Oh v necks or at least relaxed neck line shirts only. Normal t-shirt neck lines feel like I’m being choked, and not in the fun way.

I got long winded, I think that’s most of the specifics I usually deal with.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

For me, it's gym shorts and a T-shirt, usually in bright colors.

The shorts are typically 100% cotton, but I also have a couple of shirts made from merino wool, which are incredibly comfortable to wear.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

thats my go to but im not picky on materials as long as its loose. I also have these light loose things that are like sweatpants that I use for trips in the winter if I won't actually be out in the elements to much.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Sweatpants sound good too

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Mesh undershirts so my real shirts don't stick to me when I sweat, and I cut out tags because they're awful

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

I prefer that everything that touches my skin to be woven cotton. I don't like tight clothes and wicking material is evil. Knit, polyester, or those sweat clothes that have a fuzzy inside are itchy and aggravating but wicking material is pure concentrated evil in physical form. What's most comfortable is a tee and gym shorts. Jeans replace the gym shorts to go out. If I have to dress up I typically wear dress pants from a "work brand" like Dickies because they are a bit thicker and looser than most dress pants.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Merino wool just feels the best for me

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Shorts and a t shirt - t shirt has to be long enough to go past my shorts so I don't get air on my back and crack. I despise pants.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Actually, does footwear count as well? I got into barefoot shoes about a year ago and can not recommend them enough!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Stretchy or baggy, soft stuff. Minimum restrictive stuff. It has to be comfy and a color I like.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

I hate trousers especially jeans

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I also like vests but can only wear them in winter because I run hot easily. Funny thing I noticed is that vests actually helped with my terrible posture (sitting all day in front of a monitor).

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Really? How do you think that happened? Sounds like imma try that too soon...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

If the vest is tight it forces me to sit straight and keep my abs activated or it will look terrible and move up my body.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Ooh, that's an interesting effect. What vest do you use?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

I don't really know... the normal fashion kind? Buttons on front, polyester back. Don't really know much about fashion.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Sweatpants or shorts, no other clothing.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Baggy pants; large, 100 % cotton t-shits without the side seams (like Fruit of the loom [how they achieved that?]); traditional viscose socks; soft slides.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Basic shirts and pants.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

North Texas:

Cold Season: A pair of jeans, a metal band thsirt, and a hoody. I'll probably wear the hoody as "outerwear" all week.

Hot Season: A pair of black cargo shorts, a metal band thshirt, and depending on activity - a hat.

At my current job, replace the metal band tshirt with a polo. Jeans always. And work is fucking cold, so usually a hoody too, even when its 100+ outside during the day (I work nights)

Edit: I will say my, "I'm staying home, not answering the door, and fuck everyone but my wife" outfit is my birthday suit.

I'm not a nudist, but I find comfort at home to be nude. It isn't sexual, its just.... free.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

Super soft v-neck shirt with soffe military shorts

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Pajama pants (soft), and either nothing on top, a big pull over sweater (with hood), or a zip up sweater (unzipped) depending on temperature. I do not like zip up sweaters zipped if I don't have something under it.

If I'm in bed, just my underwear, occasionally a big pull over sweater (with hood). Never pants or pajama pants.

For feet, if they are cold, slippers, occasionally in the winter, wool hiking socks.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Dumb question, but what does it mean for a zip up sweater to be unzipped? Isn't that the exact opposite, or is zipped a completely different word? (non native speaker here)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

For this scenario it means the middle is open and not connected. Zipped means that the mechanism (zipper) is connected and closes the opening between the two sides. So Un-zipped is the opposite, the two sides are not connected leaving it open

Edit: I hope this helps, if you need more clarification just let me know!