I thought it wasn't but I have never heard it used for anyone but dudes.
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Same, one of those not actually gendered but gendered in practice words.
I would say it is gender neutral to male coded, diminutive in nature.
You call a child "buddy." It is male coded, but because it refers to children it becomes more androgynous in nature.
I've been in social contexts where in the local dialect it was gender neutral and status neutral, but in other contexts it is not so much male coded as it was to belittle.
Honestly, I hate when people use the word buddy—whether it's directed at me or not. It's such a pejorative to me.
I’ve been complaining on here about similar things recently. Unless a dear friend is calling me that I’m taking it as a jab.
another day volunteering at the betsy ross museum....
Even then. One of my best friends says buddy and bud to me and pretty much everyone—his other friends, bartenders, servers, anyone—but I still can't stand it. I just don't say anything because I know he means well but, damn, I find it so annoying. Who knows where he picked that shit up.
I don't know how anyone wouldn't interpret it as an insult, like "boy".
ok buddy
goddammit if ya'll take buddy or homie away from me for the times on chapo dot chat where i want to broadly express gender neutral affection but "comrade" feels too formal/cringe/performative so help me god.....
I'd be more concerned about inflection cuz "buddy" can either be the most affectionate OR the most aggressive thing to call someone lol
It's always 'bud' in the vocative usage for me unless I'm trying to fight someone
I'm also a fan of "listen, PAL..."
Buddy is puppygender
Most of the fem-coded equivalents (sis, girlfriend, galpal, etc) are a bit too gum-smack anyway. Let’s feminize buddy.
(Buddy backs away slowly…)
I'm Canadian so I'm allowed to say it
How gendered is the word "fuckface"?
fuckface is only a permissible pronoun for bottoms
It's Canadian gendered
It’s neutral, but I only hear it being used towards guys. Might be different if your from the Midwest. When I hear girls saying it it’s usually towards a pet or child lol
The buddy system does not discriminate on gender.
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