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when i'm trying to unwind i don't usually want to talk about work, so i extend that courtesy to others, i know some people enjoy and like to talk about their work but in that case they'll probably bring it up themselves

It is definitely presumptuous to ask people what they do to avoid starving to death.

Personally, I just find that asking about work is very boring and lib if it's the first question that someone asks you. I understand eventually asking that but if that's the question at the forefront of how you think will get to know me, then we are already not really going to match too well.

Back when I used to date regularly, for example, I noticed pretty quickly that more interesting, creative, and talkative people would ask other questions during gaps in conversation and we would either get to the question much later or not at all on the first date. People that would ask that pretty much as soon as we sat down were usually just hyper-normie and thought work alone greatly described the person they were meeting, instead of things like hobbies or dreams or beliefs or whatever. I want to stop short of saying it's an entirely lib, capitalist thing to ask but it is very boring to first want to ask about work and not other aspects that give someone a fuller life under capitalism.

Some people find it classist to ask that to strangers, while others find it an invasion of privacy.