this post was submitted on 29 Mar 2024
56 points (100.0% liked)

acab

788 readers
19 users here now

founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
 

https://bsky.app/profile/nappydolemite.bsky.social/post/3koucecwxfh2w

My first title worked flawlessly in my head but not at all when I wrote it out...

AQAB? All Questioners Are Bastards?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] [email protected] 14 points 7 months ago (1 children)

We just gonna give

So, what do you do for work?

askers a free pass or what

[–] [email protected] 16 points 7 months ago (5 children)

literally what is wrong with any of these questions, istg

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago

when i'm trying to unwind i don't usually want to talk about work, so i extend that courtesy to others, i know some people enjoy and like to talk about their work but in that case they'll probably bring it up themselves

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

It is definitely presumptuous to ask people what they do to avoid starving to death.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

Personally, I just find that asking about work is very boring and lib if it's the first question that someone asks you. I understand eventually asking that but if that's the question at the forefront of how you think will get to know me, then we are already not really going to match too well.

Back when I used to date regularly, for example, I noticed pretty quickly that more interesting, creative, and talkative people would ask other questions during gaps in conversation and we would either get to the question much later or not at all on the first date. People that would ask that pretty much as soon as we sat down were usually just hyper-normie and thought work alone greatly described the person they were meeting, instead of things like hobbies or dreams or beliefs or whatever. I want to stop short of saying it's an entirely lib, capitalist thing to ask but it is very boring to first want to ask about work and not other aspects that give someone a fuller life under capitalism.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Some people find it classist to ask that to strangers, while others find it an invasion of privacy.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

if you go to a party or other social gathering and view the people you might prospectively meet & have a conversation with as strangers asking questions to invade your privacy you're just doing social skills wrong, I don't know what else to tell you

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

I didnt say I agree with that, but it depends. If theres a mix of high and low income people, it might be a touchy subject. I avoid it personally, until someone asks me first.