I call myself “ostensibly cishet” because I look very much like a straight man, but I certainly don’t feel like a man and live in an area where my life would be destroyed if I referred to myself as something else
My use of language in the above sucks, but as a kid, I would always hang out at “the girls table” or in “the girls section” because the guys would always pick on me. It’s made life super difficult because when I meet a friend who is a woman now and ask them to hangout, their assumption is always that I want a partnership.
I literally only have one female friend who isn’t like this. It’s gotta be the fucking patriarchy right
Anyways, it’s so fucking lonely.
Why are apps only for people looking to fuck/get into relationships :/
I have exactly zero friends who are traditionally masculine men, and I would say nearly all of friends are fem-presenting. I do have male friends, but they are cool, gentle, nerdy people. Recently I have realized that I don't like being referred to as a "man", but I do feel like a male, whatever that means. I do have male friends, but I am most comfortable among women. I wonder recently if this is just a rejection of patriarchy, rather than a gender dysphoria, like, I just don't like hanging around men because frankly they're rude, obnoxious, and misogynist. And I don't like being called a man because that would posit me within that group.