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Yes most are insufferable. That being said... who gives a shit if Debra invites some family over to pop a balloon and celebrate the growing of a family?
Seems kinda harsh that people wanting to celebrate life with their loved ones should have their child "seized by the state"
Debra can celebrate without being a narcissistic cunt. It's really not that difficult. In fact, it's EASIER to celebrate without being a narcissistic cunt. It's literally less effort.
You just invite your friends over, have some drinks or whatever, and at some point you can be like "so anyway, the kid's gonna be a girl/boy."
This is not a steep-learning-curve concept. At all.
So making it a surprise to be revealed is the real tipping point of being an unfit parent?
Also, would you elaborate on how it's being narcissistic?
It's the grandiose, self-congratulatory, hyper-ceremonial pomp and circumstance of the situation.
It demonstrates a total lack of humility. So your baby-oven functions properly. Whoopee. It can produce either of the two standard flavors of human. Big fucking deal.
You know why so many traditions are ancient? Like, rooted in versions of themselves that are at LEAST centuries old, if not millennia? BECAUSE STARTING NEW TRADITIONS IS AN INTRINSICALLY EGOTISTICAL THING TO DO.
Following old traditions isn't just something you do because you're "supposed to." When you follow a venerable tradition (as oppposed to a trendy fad), you are communicating that you understand your place. You're just one human in a long chain of humans, just like yourself in every important respect. You're affirming that you understand you're truly not anything special, and neither are your offspring. And that's A GOOD THING. Most people aren't special. People have intrinsic value, as EQUALS, and it's good when we recognize that.
Jumping onto a newly-made, bandwagon tradition like this one (especially one that is openly self-aggrandizing) indicates that you think in the opposite fashion. You think you're the hottest of all the hot shit. You think you're the main character.
If you think that way, you're simply a bad person.
Man you are an AH. The baby oven functioning properly is not a guarentee. Its something a lot of people struggle with. I find you much more cringe than people wanting to throw an extra party. The only gender reveal party ive ever been to was for people with fertility issues. They had several miscarriages and that pregnancy meant the world to them. Seeing the gender on ultrasound was a milestone theyd never reached despite years of heartbreak.
So you're insensitive and edgy, big whoop. You don't need to post about it and pretend you are hot shit.
I understand people WANTING to throw an extra party. I understand people WANTING to pretend that they're special snowflakes.
The point is, in order to be functional members of society, you need to RESTRAIN your selfish urges to scream about how super-duper you are, from your fucking rooftop.
You say I'm pretending that I'M hot shit? No. I'm not bragging about myself. I'm not saying I'm special. What I'm doing is trying to take annoying, self-absorbed shitheads down a few pegs. That is a necessary and useful function of society. That's not a new fad. Reminding annoying people that they suck is possibly the longest-standing tradition that exists. I'm certain that language was literally invented, just so people could be told to stop acting the fool.
What? No, traditions proliferate because of network effects and cultural momentum.
Yes, that's the mechanism of their transmission. But their PURPOSE is to reaffirm cultural norms, chiefly ones related to humility and basic conformity to one's society. Not the "I'm going to do literally everything exactly the same as everyone else" sort of conformity, mind you. Just the BASIC kind of conformity and humility. The kind that says "I'm no more valuable than everyone else in the community."
Rushing to join a new tradition (especially one that hyper-celebrates one's own reproduction) is an indication of the opposite impulse. You're communicating that you're better, more important, more valuable than your peers and your ancestors. That's destructive and maladaptive. Not everyone can be the best. If everyone thinks they're the most special, then nobody will want to do the equitable sharing and sacrificing that all societies have to do, in order to keep running.
Last question; do you have children yourself?
This sounds like a Communist or Swedish attitude.