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What are some ways you've generally handled know-it-all nerds? The kind that gatekeep the concept of being highly intelligent? They've taken advantage of me all my life because I'm unconfident. (hexbear.net)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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CW sexual assault, physical assault Growing up, I've been repeatedly assaulted and harassed by know it all's. That's how upsettingly nerdy they were about gatekeeping the autonomy of thinking for myself. Because they wanted to violate the most intimate of boundaries, and not have me fight back. They wanted control and power over me in every way. To play pretend that they were all powerful and intelligent wizards.

I see a lot of communists on here saying things that might lead to them being stigmatized, and I want to be able to do that more. You guys shut down nerdiness. I've been conditioned to have controlling nerd voices in my head, and automatically let them convince me out of setting boundaries and speaking up for what I believe in. Now I'm my own controlling nerd, and I don't want to be. I want to walk the right path regardless of how stigmatized it may be.

How do you shut down nerds? Especially when their opinions are antihuman? If you don't care about piggypoopballs opinions, what are your reasons for not caring?

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

"Nerds" seem to cling to an idea of objective truth, and that their ideologies are universal, and that they are important for the "knowledge" they have obtained.

You can flip the script by pointing out the ways these things are wrong.

Lol "that's what they want you to think" "Where'd you get that, debate-me-debate-me ?" Or if you really want to piss them off compare them to an evangelical pundit or alex-aware

"Anyone can get a Ph.D / doctorate, it's the most middle-brow achievement" "What do you call the guy who finishes last in med school?" (Doctor) "spent your time slaving away when you could have been stacking papers" "too smart to be happy, not smart enough to be successful"

Nerds will generally take the bait and continue to try to make their point if you catch them in a leading question / insult. "I know YOU can rely on RealDolls for jobs no one wants to do, but other work needs living minimum wage, healthcare, etc." "Your mom wasn't really providing 'skilled labor' last night but she still should make a living wage" "Everyone makes mistakes, like your parents when they made you" "Hey yeah, with all the money you're saving by not tipping, maybe you can buy a friend / self-respect / whatever"