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Transgender rights are under attack. But trans people 'just want to thrive and survive.'
(www.usatoday.com)
this post was submitted on 14 Nov 2023
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I don't think you're understanding my point. Trans-ness is, for me, defined by gender dysphoria. Gender dysphoria, by its very definition, is the pain i experience by not looking like a cis woman. Visibility is not a thing i want to celebrate. Visibility is the affliction.
Can everyone be stealth? No, absolutely not, and being trans should be normalized. But i still feel very uncomfortable with my debilitating endocrine disorder being used as a point of pride, in the same way gay pride is.
I'm gay, and I'm out and proud of that. I love being visibly gay. But being trans is different because it's not a thing i want to be.
That's your own internal transphobia. You are trans. It's who you are. You cant go back in time and make yourself cisgender, neither can i. I've got gender dysphoria too, I'm aware of what it is. I had reassignment surgery because I've wanted to have a vagina since I was a child. I've been on hormones for almost 9 years and meticulously tracked my facial fat and breast development and hip development, even adjusting my own doses to get the absolute best results I could. I'm going to south Korea next year and spending over 12 thousand dollars to get vocal cord surgery to undo the damage that puberty did to them.
I understand that feeling. I've always wanted to be a normal cis girl too. And I love my friends who don't treat me any differently than they do any other girls. I don't understand men, and my friend groups are composed almost entirely of cis queer women. I like being seen as a woman without any other identifier, because that's my gender that's who I am.
But I am proud to be trans. I have had people I knew in real life tell me that seeing me transition and be happy and be confident was what convinced them that they could transition too. I met with one of my friend's teenage kids who was questioning if he could transition. I'll never forget the way his eyes nearly fell out of his head just to see a trans person, a trans adult just living a normal life. I loved that experience. I loved being able to show him that if I could do it so could he, and he has since started T and come out to his friends and family. I'm proud of that. I always will be. My best friend in high school, who at the time identified a cis gay man, transitioned because she saw me do it. She sent me a letter years later thanking me for being brave enough to do it when she was so scared to. I cried like a baby reading that.
Trans people can't be hidden anymore. When trans people aren't visible only pain and repression happens. I'm doing everything I can to rectify the dysphoria I feel in my body. I want to pass, I want people to see me for who I am. But I'm okay with being trans and I'm okay with showing that world that trans people can be happy. It's not something anyone is responsible for. Like I said, there's no shame in going stealth. It's okay to not want to be visibly trans. But it has to be okay to be visibly trans.
Being trans isn't simply a diagnosis on a piece of paper. You can act like it is but it isnt. We would hardly be talking about it in these terms if that was the case. Being trans is a life experience, the experience of being raised in a body and gender presentation that was incompatible with who we are. It's the most awful painful alienating experience in the world, and many of us are literally killed for being trans. It's not just a medical diagnosis. It's not that simple. It's a social class. Society does not treat trans and cis people the same based solely on our being trans.