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To be fair, she didn't ask me out. She just started a conversation (iirc, about whether I'd tried a candy bar she was interested in before). I'm not horribly ugly but I'm also not above-average in the looks department; I don't get girls asking me out all the time.
But candy bars turned into an introduction ("Hey I'm Drew", "Hey I'm [girl]"), and then I gave her my number and told her I'd like to get lunch or something sometime. We made plans to get icecream but then she backed out because she had a boyfriend. I texted her back a couple weeks later to ask if they were still together, she said "Yeah but I'm up for meeting up anyways".
My advice would just be to be bold and be selfish. If it won't get you fired, expelled, or arrested, shoot your shot. Don't be too pushy, whiny, or entitled - but her phone has a block button. She'll use it if she doesn't want to hear from you.
Wholeheartedly agree, but I think too many think that you should never "bother" a girl under any circumstance. Whereas I think it's perfectly fine to strike up a conversation even if she may be "busy" because it's your life and you don't want any regrets.