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What would you say the reason is for those guys who cant get a date for the life of them? (hexbear.net)

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

If you’re already alone and miserable, locking yourself away from everyone to “focus on math” or “focus on yourself” won’t do you any good.

Furthermore, people who rise up to higher positions or are at least well liked at work aren't necessarily "the best at their jobs" but are ones that get along with others. In fact I'd wager that most job interviews are really about seeing if you'll gel well with everyone else as opposed to your "ability" or "skills." So yeah only focusing on "math" or whatever will mean you're the lonely loser guy who nobody invites to lunch.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

For sure. I’m only like 70% qualified for my current my current job. But I rehearsed my interview and got everyone to loosen up and they even told me they had a difficult time choosing between me and everyone else. It’s good to desire high competency at something or be perfectly content in life, but very few people can do that let alone do it alone. It’s not worth becoming the “tragic xyz” at the expense of your mental health and relationships