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I would guess 99% of cases is just they never meet new people and aren't attractive enough to get anywhere with dating apps.
plus there's a newish social phenomena that basically says you shouldn't approach women anywhere. overall probably good because women deal with less unwanted harassment, but if you can't talk to new people at the gym, at stores, outside, at work, and you don't go to parties/bars - you're basically never going to meet anyone.
The equilibrium point is to take a dance class. You learn to dance and you will make friends. One of them will just get bored and start hanging out with you, or one of your new friends friends etc.
I don't think you have to be particularly attractive to use dating apps. Like, I'm sure it helps, but I honestly think it's a skill issue for the most part. Like, on dating apps, a huuuuge amount of people's profiles have like three mediocre pics, and none of the info filled in, no bio, etc. That's just an auto swipe left. Even worse are the profiles where the bio is an active turn off. Like people whose bio is just like a misogynistic skreed. And those people, I assume, are ones who are the most vocal about dating apps not working for them.
I don't know. I've tried dating apps what feels like 100 times. I make a profile with the nicest pictures I have of myself, fill all the info in, and within a week or two I'll basically only have matches from people I have no interest in. then I get frustrated and delete the app.
women have soo many options on these things, they're just not gonna ever go for me - a 5'4 guy with thinning hair and still in undergrad in his late 20s, lol.
I wonder if there’s tinder consultants out there that help you take good photos, write a good bio etc. Could probably make some good coin that way
let me know if you find one, lol
You got a spare 10 grand lol
https://nypost.com/2021/09/20/this-nyc-online-dating-coach-costs-10000-heres-what-you-get/
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People are wild. Honestly though a couple hundred bucks for professional photos and having a friend proofread a profile would likely go a long way.
I’m so glad I don’t have to deal with these hell apps
I'm bald in in my undergrad in my 30s. Don't be too hard on yourself.
If you decide nobody is gonna go for you then delete the app, then yeah, not gonna work