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it's kinda scary honestly. we gotta be vigilant every day that our hearts don't harden against other human beings.
Happy for you that you're in a better position now.
Yeah, all the awful stuff I've been thru in recent years, overcrowded slums, surrounded by drug addicts, pedophiles, abusers. So much anger, misery, hatred, everyone tsking it out on each other. each time I got yelled at, swung at, bedroom door kicked in.... I could feel the hatred, anger building in me. The pressure, overwhelming desire for retribution. Wrestled with it a lot, had to actively work at not letting it consume. To retain open-mindedness, compassion, desire to be a better person.
I can see now how hard it is for people to escape poverty. It claws at you, surrounds, at times can seem inextricable.
The person who originally coined the concept of "alpha male" wolves eventually regretted coining the concept because they realized that the observations made of such wolves were in psychologically damaging and traumatizing captivity conditions, not a healthy wolf pack.
I never forget that when I see someone being violently "alpha" out there amid squalor and suffering.
Once I became a homeowner, I had to actively practice ongoing awareness of homeless people all around me. My comfort did nothing for them, and any superficial discomfort I felt seeing them was nothing compared to what they were going through every day.
Because of that, I started deliberately walking among them and volunteering to help them while acknowledging their ongoing existence. I even passed out food directly from my driveway until
got the city on me for doing that.