E: this baby dicked Honda owner is laughing at the responses.
Similar in that they can both be, your words, "intense, intimiate and potentially painful and overwhelming.".
I'm going to argue that the "normal" point of view that holds losing your virginity as a big fucking deal (pun intended) is in fact unhealthy. It's often bundled up with patriarchy. It really doesn't need to have all the brouhaha. That creates a lot of misery and hangups.
You're not proving that it should be a special case. You're just acting like it's self evident.
Incidentally,
You need it to be with someone who cares about you so they can make it a good experience
Also applies to karaoke.
So I don't believe you when you say
It’s not some victorian-purity BS,