Thank you for the response! With relationship I kind of just meant it in general when trying to poke around. As you and others have mentioned being autistic, I prefer open and direct conversation, but I have had very bad experiences with people in all other parts of the communication sphere. I actually had to put the brakes on a relationship once cause they were just telling me things I wanted to hear, and I was not going to advance that physically if I could not trust them to tell me to stop, you know?

I haven't tried FetLife, I think that is my next step. I didn't think about adult stores; they were outlawed in the state I grew up in, so I forgot to consider them. Or it was something like they couldn't advertise so they basically didn't exist?

I really appreciate the threads to start here. It honestly helps more then I can put into words, but I'm sure you understand.