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this post was submitted on 18 Aug 2026
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It's weird as hell. I don't understand how people can get that using slurs against other people is bad yet fail to understand that putting a small spin on that same slur and using it all the time against something different is still going to harm people and still going to end up being used by racists directly as a replacement for it's origin word.
My niece goes to school and has kids loudly talking about how much they hate "clankers" while staring at her. She's 10 years old. I try to discuss the harm in using these terms and multiple people have responded by using the same slurs against me and my family. Someone said that because of my display name I must be a child rapist.
I feel like I took crazy pills. I guess I didn't miss the civil rights movement by as much as I'd always thought.
Also, yes. I don't like it when crude behavior is called out, and the other party immediately attacks you as a "supporter" of whatever they're attacking. That particularly rubs me the wrong way, it happens to me all the time on Lemmy... and the admins/mods of some instances/communities are completely fine with it. They do it themselves.
Don't take it personally.
Lemmy is really... militant. A large fraction of people here seem to be okay with that kind of behavior as long as its at the right target. And I think social media has rubbed off on many parents, who instill that in their kids.
I am not a parent, so you probably shouldn't listen to me. But. If I was talking to my 10 year old, I'd try to explain why the other kids are using that kind of slang. I think it would make more sense than simply telling them friends are saying bad things. Kids are smarter than people given them credit for, in my experience, as long as you frame things within their experience.
She knows what the n word is. But kids get in trouble using that so they're migrating to the shiny new c word everyone's so comfortable using in just the same ways.
Lemmy seems to have a really uncomfortable and unexpected amount of hate. The minute someone doesn't fit in an established tribe so many people here become rabid.