Thank you for your response. I definitely did not intend to imply that trans women do not experience misogyny before transitioning, or that they have a “male” childhood/socialisation. Although I understand how my words could have suggested that. I fully acknowledge that childhood for most trans people is traumatic, because you are expected to be or are treated as someone you’re not. And I also fully acknowledge that trans women and enbies can experience the same type of sexualisation that cis women experience when they are children. Feminine cis men probably experience it too. And just to be clear, I am not comparing the experience of feminine men to that of trans women here, these experiences are probably different. Just as how my experiences with sexualisation and assault are different from that of cis and trans women.

When I wrote that I feel like my childhood traumas connect me to women more than cis men in some moments, I intently did not write cis women, because I feel this connection to trans women as well. Which I suppose is partly why it hurt to feel like my experience was unwelcome in some female dominated trans communities. Your reply did make me understand better where the unwelcomeness could have come from though. I can be more careful about the words I choose to describe it.