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this post was submitted on 04 Aug 2026
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I'm 39 and dating a 27 y/o (no apps were involved, she's my neighbour). It's my first time engaging with this sort of age gap, and I'm not a huge fan of that aspect of the relationship - in fact we were both somewhat hesitant at first due to that factor and some other key demographic differences. We share a lot of the same sensibilities and politics, but her being in a somewhat different stage of life socially speaking does create some friction, along with the minor but real behavioural differences. Anyway, it's been about 11 mos on and off (mostly on) and it seems to be going well, but I would still describe the age gap as a recurring source of low-level, occasional conflict I think we could both live without.
i'm 39 and have a bunch of 27 year old friends. we're in different stages of development in our lives, which is abundantly clear every time we hang out. i'm basically the group unc. could see it getting complicated in a romantic relationship for sure
I just don't get why age gaps over a decade almost always seem to involve the man or masc being the older one and the woman or femme being younger. At least like 90-95% of the time
I can only speak for cishet dynamics - the most commonly cited reason and I guess most obvious reason is that dudes are thirsty for younger women, but ime the reverse is also often true, either because they've found men in their age bracket to be lacking in some way (take yr pick), or because they have some idea that older men will have their shit more together. (I can confirm this is generally NOT the case but anyway.)
There's so little social pressure for cishet men to mature that it sometimes feels like you gotta age up your demographic to find someone who isn't a manchild
And even that isn't a guarantee lol, 45 year olds who have never cleaned a toilet or reflected on anyone else's interiority.
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