I mean those people who you look at them and they have the body and responsibilities of a 43 year old but then you hear them talk about other people or other ethnicities or other situations that people are experiencing elsewhere and the person had might as well be a remorseless 3 year old that was raised wrongly.... The thing that floors me is hen you meet a very old person, Im talking in their 60s or older, and they start spewing some of the most idiotic, narcisisstic garbage a person could ever talk of... 'How have you spent all these years learning nothing?!'
Is it really THAT hard to break free of the chains of your terrible childhood and develop just a little empathy , understanding and humanity towards others? I DEFINITELY didnt have the best childhood seeing as how I was bullied and ostracized for decades , even by my parents lol, but I came to realize that 'Hurt people will hurt people.' so why am I going to go out of my way to be selfish and make more people who are hurt? But on the other hand I see , and Im sure most of you also have seen, that humans are not a very logicsl species sometimes. We have the potential to be more logical than Einstein but it doesnt always play out like that... We as a species do A LOOOT of things based on anti-logic, emotions, our pains, our traumas, or our cognitive distortions and this in turn sometimes creates more 'hurt people' ...
Im not saying that humans have gotten worse over time cause anybody here can open up wikipedia and read about all the awful things we used to do to each other , if anything we have gotten better just a little bit. But why are there STILL in the year of 2026 people who choose to just not 'grow up' ?
TL;DR too many adults , and even seniors , Ive emcountered have illogical and sometimes psychopathic opinions . Why do so many people choose to not grow up and be more understanding?
What is your take on something like this?
The people in power are strongly encouraging it, and propaganda works. So yeah, it's pretty hard to fix people like this, or for them to fix themselves.
I will admit thst the lack of mental health care provided by those in power most places makes me start to understand why this is such a recurring phenomena in many places .
Though I live i canada which pretty much has free mental health care and ONCE AGAIN most of the people Ive talked to here have either ghosted me for no reason which theyve stated, ignored me , or said mean words or done mean actions to me. This is the same regardless of the age of the person Ive talked to . I would assume that a person who was 40+ would have wised up as to how this is not a way to behave to other people who you have been talking to fr the last couple of weeks , months ...and yet...
Have you tried to actually access mental health care recently? My country theoretically has free healthcare, too, but it's pretty hard to actually access it, especially when you're suffering from mental health issues which make navigating the labyrinthine bureaucracy challenging. And that's if you actually think that you need therapy, which usually isn't true for the kinds of people you're describing. In come the pied pipers telling them that all of their problems are due to brown people, gays etc.
Im not even joking I simply said to my doctor that Im feeling 'self deletable' and I was given an appointment with a osychologist within the same week. Completely free. I was shocked at the expediency. I still talk to that psychologist about once a few months, not because she has a full schedule but because Im busy doing things. I could make numerous appointments with her per a month, like once a week, I have just chosen not to.
Im speaking from a point of privelege once again cause ease of acfess to mental health care clearly isnt available for everyone.
But this was about 7 or so years ago so I dont think much has changed.
But you said that these people dont need mental health care and now Im curous as to why you think that? I was stuck ina cycle of thinking when I was at had my most 'self-deleting' desires but the words of my psychologist broke the cycle to make me think in different ways about my self-deleting thoughts . I realised that my self-deletiony was a strange defense mechanism I created for myself and I was just relying on it cyclically to accept that Ill never have to do anything and if Im ever asked to do something that I must? Ill just delete myself.. (yes , it was a very strange defence mechanism . But it was what it was)
I feel that a lot of these people I speak of , older , biased to the point of self-destruction, selfish , and even generally sef-destructive, need that one or two intervention that breaks this cycle that theure stuck in. And in my opinion that people created this psychological cycle as a reaction to the cruel capitalistic world and people who have harmed them. basically I now see their cruelty was simply a DEFENSE MECHANISM they created as a reaction to the cruelty theyve experienced and now theyre stuck on this cycle of a defense mechanism cause they dont see any other method to use. I canexucse a younger person who thinks like this since most young people are impressionable and inexperienced. But for an older person? ...No.... You dont think the same of them?
I meant that they don't think they need therapy, i.e. narcissists, psychopaths etc. generally don't think that there's anything wrong with them.
Ah I see. And sadly yes youre right. Its like the people who need it the most have a tendency to Dunning-Krueger themselves into believing they dont need it at all, while those who are more open to the idea and need it less so are the most likely to seek a psychologust to speak with.