We love sex and do it everyday, and generally do compromise up (if either of us want to we do) but I so love me some nuance, too. Often, approach does matter and it's nice. "wanna fuck" because I am bored is less likely to land than if I approach my husband physically, I know this. He knows me too, and how to get me started.

Again - I don't think it's necessarily a requirement, just good to know how to ask, and to be aware of how your partner is feeling at the moment. Likely better results if you care to.