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hosting your own media server is just so weird. I have never understood the appeal, but every IT person seems to want to brag to you they have ripped 2000 DVDs of shitty movies they will never watch.
The appeal js not paying for streaming services. Sailing the high seas means you don't have to do any ripping yourself.
People have different hobbies than you? I've never heard such a thing. Truly weird!
We're not talking about hobbies, we're talking about weird flexes.
Clearly home media servers are a flex for you? I have lots of hobbies, but I don't like interject/brag to random people in conversation how I have several custom-built boutique brand mountain bikes that I built myself. That would be a weird flex and make me a douche. So I never really talk about that unless someone specifically asks me where/how I got my bike.
I just say I like to mountain bike. I also like movies, but I just watch them on streaming services or go to the library, because very few movies I will ever watch more than once, so owning them is kinda pointless for me.
and futher, I work in IT, and it's like every third person I meet in IT who brags about their Plex server, as if it's some great achievement... rather than just a time sink.
I think you missed the point entirely. Yes, the thread is about weird flexes. Just yesterday there was a discussion in !selfhosted@lemmy.world about Plex, and a lot of people who run Jellyfin were saying running Plex isn't selfhosting. A weird (to me) anti-Plex flex.
OP asked for weird flexes. Weird flex in reply.
So when you replied:
You seem to be disparaging the hobby of selfhosted media servers. That's why I responded as I did. I never said that I participate in that hobby at all, so I'm not sure why you think I'm the one doing the flexing here.
I guess what you may be saying is that you don't recognize "running a media server" as a hobby at all, but some kind of weird flex within the space of "I like movies." I can see your point that in a conversation about "I like movies," jumping in with "I run my own media server, akshully" could come off very negatively. I agree. There are a lot of self-congratulatory dingbats in that space. But that's not what happened here.
Open-ended question looking for weird flexes people have heard. Weird flex was provided.
Have a nice day.
this entire reply is you being this person. that's what you don't understand.
it's ok, lots and lots of weirdos on lemmy do this shit all the time. they love to lecture strangers on the internet about how stupid and dumb and wrong they are, and take your comments about other people generally as personal attacks on themselves. and then feel a compulsion to defend themselves and their choices and then turn it into a pissing contenst where they implicity seem to want you to admit 'fault' for 'upsetting' them or your admit your 'ignorance' and their 'genius'.
steam, linux, plex, politics, etc. topic doesn't matter, attitude and the strucutre/stlye of the replies is always the same and totally interchangable. they will always use 'true scotsman' style argumentation, or accuse you of stawmanning, or some other 'logic' flex they think makes them 'smart' and you 'stupid'.
I know I'm weird, but I generally don't get upset or personally insulted other folks don't share in my hobbies or beliefs or whatever. And I'm fascinated by how hostile the often are to me I share them in a top level comment, or say often a contrasting scenario/example that disagrees with their oversimplified premise. then they tell me i'm generalizing and that's bad or something, but when they do it, it's good, or something.