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I keep seeing this content that’s “men are so stupid and inferior and awful” and it’s grating on me.
Like, yes, there’s definitely a strong toxic subset of men, but most of use are just… normal?
I’m in my mid 30s, when the women aren’t around we’re mostly talking about kids (those who have them), hockey, finances, house stuff, and weird health issues. Depending on the group, how stupid politics/government shit is lately.
I don’t know. It feels like the toxicity that came for incels is coming at women hard these last few years. Reddit really pushes this stuff lately.
That's because it's troll bait. Just like all generations have a bigger than wanted set of shitty people. I don't feel like I can take this shit down because it's not breaking any rules. You all can help by not falling for the bait though.
Definitely this. It circulates widely because it generates outrage, even though the number of people who actually believe this is miniscule. This is the same technique right-wing media uses
It might even be the same people. I suspect that, but don't have any proof.
Russia has repeatedly and explicitly said they are playing both sides of the US/Western political divide against each other in online rate campaigns.
It was shown to be the case in the muller reports I think. Its only rational to assume its ramped up a lot more since then especially given how effective its been.
rage* 🙇🏼♂️
how important is proof and what would you do with it?
I have no idea how anyone could prove it. But if I could, I would remove these types of posts as spam.
i mean i might be able to dig through logs and find similarities between times, vpns, etc. we're talking forensic bullshit but i'd need instance level cooperation and it's work work, so i'd need money. it honestly doesn't sound worth it on either of our ends since my rates aren't really what you'd be looking to pay. i used to be an accountant in a former life, before my disability got too bad, and did a few forensic gigs a year.
As I said in another comment, I don't think OP meant it as troll bait. He probably thought it was funny and the trolls go off on it. They'll make up opportunities if they can't seize them. I do think "they" post stuff like this specifically to stir up shit, but not this one. I think it was opportunity trail bait.
and honestly what i'd probably find is the troll accounts' activity, and also myself when i can't sleep probably who knows what i get up to when i'm four days into an insomnia bender.
Agitprop, yep. One of the oldest tricks in the book, and we still need to remind people. 😶
I think the person who posted this was placing the emphasis more on the comic at the bottom which calls out the unnecessary shittiness of the original tweet.
That's not exactly ragebait, that's more "someone said something shitty and this is why it's shitty."
It has a utility. Calling out shittiness is an important antidote against that type of shittiness. It's like it builds people's psychological antibodies, so when they encounter it in the wild they know not to take it seriously. They know they aren't the only one's who see through it.
I appreciate you following the rules but tbh ragebait should be on of them. Lemmy is getting flooded with it lately. So many old, stupid social Twitter posts that do nothing but rile people up
This has 300+ upvotes right now though. I ethically agree with you, but I took over this community. If the community upvotes this sort of thing, I don't feel like I have the right to remove it because I think it's stupid and causes harm. I really want to, ha ha.
I know the opinion of one anonymous user doesn't carry a lot of weight but this would be my counterargument:
Upvotes are not a good gauge when people will upvoted anything that reinforces their beliefs. Even if it's straight up wrong like so many social media screenshots are.
Not all engagement is good engagement and more activity doesn't necessarily lead to a better community. Lemmy has been flooded with ragebait and say-nothing tweets lately and I fear it's becoming the norm
In my experience, if I took this down, the trolls will come out and attack so hard that any other kinds of posts get drowned out. Also, this is being upvoted outside of what I think the trolls can manage in briggading for the fediverse. This would be no problem for reddit, but I haven't seen it here.
Edit: I should note that this poster is one of our best OPs and probably thought it was funny. Doesn't stop it from being troll bait though.
Yeah, but Incels also startet as Trolls and now they've developed into a real movement. Just like flatearthers and so many other conspiracy theories.
I'm not saying we shouldn't engage with this type of content, I mean I've engaged in communities and posts about birds not being real and that might as well turn into real conspiracy theory just like flat earth.
But they do have real consequences and people might start to truly believe these things. Many people won't realise it's a bait, including women.
Femcels are a thing. :\
I hate to use that term though because I love femcel communities here on fediverse. They probably got the best memes in the verse.
I still haven't figured put what the deal is with that place, and at this point I'm too afraid to ask.
Female celery
Well, yes, but I think that's a leek.
Which is delicious in the right soup.
i just kinda showed up there and hoped no one would notice i'm married, but my wife is awesome i like to talk about her. and they're pretty cool on the community so 😘
It's really prevalent, but it's unfortunately hard to call out, especially irl.
I upvoted because the two panel underneath is mocking the ragebait post.
The thing no one wants to admit or say is that while the modern (MeToo and onward) feminist movement certainly has good intentions, its been broadly co opted into a kind of pop-feminism that's about as actually feminist as tik tok psychology advice is real psychology.
Its morphed into basically just a semi-formalized worldview of mystic misandry.
'Manifesting', the Patriarchy as essentially an evil spiritual or god-like entity or force, which everything else is oriented around and against... while simultaneously claiming that adherents need to 'de-center men' ... near total abandonment of any attempt to empathize with the 'other', active glee in demonizing them... whole bunch of 'creators' just vying to be the most bombastic mini cult leader...
Its even got a discernible dialect.
They believe dogmas. When you try to inquire as to the basis or validity of those dogmas... they attack.
You get a bunch of faux psychoanalysis of how you could possibly have ended up so broken as to question their... you know, idea that they can't or won't actually defend.
Its like a religious fundamentalist launching into a semi-canned apologia response.
so like, i went to this cult university. one of the smaller mistakes of my life to give you an idea. they had this feminists group there. i generally look white and male, and back then i went by this cool nickname that was about my disability (a different disability has coopted it and that makes me grumpy but you know what, we could share. it's not literally the only nickname what ever stuck to me besides my stage name. just, mine makes literal sense and theirs doesn't but whatever, i can't use it anymore anyways) and this group's leader decided that anyone who looked male was there to trawl for women to fuck and believe me no and doubly no not her. First that'd be an ethical violation, second i don't really need to say anything beyond that. Anyways, the motion to kick me out of the group was that because of my cool nickname based on my disability, and because i was white and male (even though i only look those things) i needed to go die in a fire.
now, this cult university does the weirdest psy-ops. like, there are articles in the salt lake tribune about them, don't take my word for it. i grew up outside the jello belt. my polycule of grandpas taught me real feminism, so something smelled really off about that group, whether it's just an absolute misandrist pseudo- firstwaver trying to deal with a punkrockabilly third/fourthwaver or it was a cult legitimately trying to turn people away from feminism with the subtlety of a brick.
i guess what i'm trying to say is, like, there's some real dipshits out there
Yep.
There are many kinds of feminism... and the pop-feminism of tik tok... yeah I agree, that's not real feminism...
But try explaining the entire complex history of feminism to somebody whose only seen the tik tok version of feminism.
They'll be very confused and think you are talking about something almost completely different, often to the point of concluding you are lying to them, trying to trick them.
As ever, everyone is talking past each other, trying to win an argument, not have an actual discussion.
I will say i have zero appreciation for "nice" things and the house looking cozy or whatever. If it were up to me I would live in a bare apartment with everything painted white and minimal furniture. And there's nothing wrong with that and i have no reason to change.
Of all the things that are wrong with me and perhaps other men, this is just not one of them, it's just a style preference, there's zero morality involved. Whoever doesn't like it can just not fuck with me, just like i dont fuck with decorations.
Because for years, people could be as shitty to "men" as a general category as they wanted to be, and no one was allowed to call it out. Anyone who did try to call it out got labeled as a right-winger or a misogynist or a redpilled men's lib chud.
People literally started saying "misandry" is a misogynistic dogwhistle. As if calling out shittiness and hate implies that you're actually peddling shittiness and hate for the other.
Maybe for someone who believes the only way to combat hate is with hate, then calling out hate might be seen as hateful. But if that's the case, then it reduces life to a zero-sum game, and if that's the case then it's anything goes, survival of the fittest. I for one don't believe in such a bleak vision of the world.
But for years any attempt to call out misandry was met with vitriol, usually proving the point but no one seemed to see that.
I've been saying for years that these double-standards are toxic and destructive. I've been destroyed on reddit multiple times for it, back before I got permabanned. I've had multiple arguments over it here too, and people just dismiss me as "sexist" for it, even though they're the ones being sexist.
So honestly, it's kinda nice to see a post that says, subtextually, "What this person said is very shitty" when showing a misandrist tweet. And it's nice to see people agree that it's shitty.
It feels like the world is waking up a little, like it might finally be ready to look itself in the mirror and realize that no hate is excusable.
amen brother.
don't worry though, tons of posters here who are leaning hard in on the misandry and hate, and think anyone who points out all this sexist bullshit just hates women. because if you ever call a lady out on her hateful ways, you just hate women.
Its so much worse here then in reddit. At least reddit has some subs that are somewhat male focused and leftist. Here a women only sub n keeps popingnup on my feed all but telling me the world would be a better place if I died.
I blocked the "women's only" subs because I didn't need such blatant misandry popping up in my feed that I'll get banned if I respond to saying it's wrong. Because "no boys allowed" I guess.
On reddit even if I blocked a sub it would still show up in my feed. Spuck fez.
I guarantee if someone made a men only community or even one focused on social issues affecting men the instance hosting it would be defederated by all others.
People are talking to people in real life less and less these day. The people they do talk to tend to be of the same gender, this was a thing before the Internet but the Internet has made it worse. Combine that with algorithms where the first thing they learn about you is your gender and will feed you content accordingly, peoples view of the opposite gender becomes more and more distorted. So the terminally online people, that also make a lot of the content on the Internet, tend to become misogynist or misandrist.
they don't have to be terminally online. i overhear shit like this all the time irl. and encounter these attitudes all the time from women while dating in a liberal progressive city.
shitty people project their shit onto everyone. this is all this is. a shitty person mocking and deriding someone for being different than them or not living up to their bizarre and often hypocritical expectations of the opposite sex.
i go on so many dates where the woman basically just lays out what she is looking for in a relationship, and it's they often take this condescending tone where they think men are inferior beings that have to 'prove' themselves... instead of regarding you as a fellow human being.
Because there are groups specifically circulating ragebait to radicalize young and impressionable men into right winged radicalism. People see this all over the internet, but what do you see in real life? In my experience I have seen plenty of examples of casual misogyny in real life, I've never really seen any form of "misandry" in person.
I see a lot more Misandry in real life than say 15 years ago. A lot of it is very straight up and said as if there is nothing wrong with what they're saying and its just a fact. Some examples off the top of my head are "short men are disgusting" "men are ruining the world" "we should just kill all men" "I hate that im attracted to men" and then plenty of things that are just attacking innocent things men do like their hobbies
yes.
all you have to do is flip the genders, and it's hate speech. imagine guys going on about how short women are disgusting and unworthy of them... they would be considered horrible people.
I have seen misandry in person multiple times but not nearly as often as misogyny. The misandry had far less impact on anyone as well.
I first read that as "horse stuff" and was wondering if horses were suddenly in now
Typical mysandrists. Dumb as fuk
you are being logical and thoughtful and acknowledging a complex reality.
the people who push this shit live in a black and white world where all men are scum and should aspire to not be men. these are also the same people who will complain there are no 'manly men' left.
they are gender supremacists living in a delusional reality of their own making. they simple hate men for existing, just men who hate women hate them for existing. except for when they are sexual fantasy objects.