The thing no one wants to admit or say is that while the modern (MeToo and onward) feminist movement certainly has good intentions, its been broadly co opted into a kind of pop-feminism that's about as actually feminist as tik tok psychology advice is real psychology.
Its morphed into basically just a semi-formalized worldview of mystic misandry.
'Manifesting', the Patriarchy as essentially an evil spiritual or god-like entity or force, which everything else is oriented around and against... while simultaneously claiming that adherents need to 'de-center men' ... near total abandonment of any attempt to empathize with the 'other', active glee in demonizing them... whole bunch of 'creators' just vying to be the most bombastic mini cult leader...
Its even got a discernible dialect.
They believe dogmas. When you try to inquire as to the basis or validity of those dogmas... they attack.
You get a bunch of faux psychoanalysis of how you could possibly have ended up so broken as to question their... you know, idea that they can't or won't actually defend.
Its like a religious fundamentalist launching into a semi-canned apologia response.