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Whenever I tell someone that I wish i was shorter, they are always taken a back(being masculine presenting). I am just over 6 ft, in my country, that's a bit above average height. Its not like I am a gaint or anything but I am always aware how intimidating I look. Also, the country where I live doesn't feel like it build for people my size. Mini-van for transportation that squish my knees, ceiling that are a bit too low for my taste, showers space that's too small.

But also, I feel like a bumbling idiot (I suspect I have Dysprixa) and hate standing out so much. I may have Body dysmorphia. Its like how I would like to be seen and how I feel, are the exact opposite to how I seen. I feel small, soft, in a relationship, I would prefer to take on the "feminine " role. I feel nothing like a man.

Anyone else relates to this.

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[-] FatVegan@leminal.space 6 points 7 hours ago

I'm 1.85m tall and do feel like it's a pretty good height. I was never aware that that counts as tall. But at the same time, i don't think i ever got anything out of it, other than being able to reach a bit better in the supermarket or something. Having more leg room in a car and so on sounds neat.

[-] blargh513@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago

Boo hoo, car is too small!

Get use to it you circus freak. Us toddlers will just have to suffer through being made fun of for something we have no control over or worse, entirely ignored as if we don't even exist.

Now if you'll excuse me, I'll be getting into my tiny ass car and driving it to the airport where I will comfortably fly in the cheapest coach seats possible. While I'm waiting in the airport, I'll just buy some silk cashmere sweaters on ebay for $30.

[-] SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 15 points 6 hours ago

It's like white privilege (but obviously less profound): The benefits are in what doesn't happen to you: No jokes about your height. No failed job interviews. No romantic difficulties because of your height. People don't constantly interrupt, or act like you're not even there. That kind of thing.

[-] FatVegan@leminal.space 3 points 3 hours ago

Interesting. To be fair, every conversion is over for me if a potential date asks me about my height. My girlfriend now is pretty tall herself and she never cared and she told me before we even met that she doesn't care. People do constantly interrupt me, which, i don't really know where that is from. Short jokes is absolutely correct, but weirdly enough, i never saw myself as tall, untill someone pointed it out when i was like 29. I thought i was very avarage, maybe below average, because i was always the youngest in my class, therefore the shortest. I had a roomate who was really short and i did always made short jokes about him, not really in a mean way, but in hindsight, obviously not cool. But i never saw it as a downside, or that people are even bothered that they are shorter. His girlfriend was also almost as tall as me, so again, i just thought that she doesn't care, no one should.

[-] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 5 points 5 hours ago

Yes, but that cuts both ways. The number of cars that really don't fit at 185cm.

[-] Kayday@lemmy.world 13 points 5 hours ago

Short person: Securing employment and finding love are harder for me.
Tall person: I know exactly what you mean, sometimes my knees bump against my luxury sports car :(

[-] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 10 points 5 hours ago

Your argument would be stronger if you left out "luxury sports". Don't get me started on flying coach.

[-] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 hours ago

I think we all, tall and small alike, can agree the airlines can get fucked with the way they jam inhuman numbers of seats into the airplane. You know they bribe Congress with free flights, to keep themselves carved out from disability -access laws and even basic decency for their passengers.

[-] SwingingTheLamp@piefed.zip 7 points 5 hours ago

Fitting perfectly into an economy airliner seat is 10/10, the once every 3-4 years that I do that. But cars have their own issues when you're below the average size: Bad sightlines, arm rests too high, seatbelts that saw at your throat for the whole trip rather than cross your shoulder, increased injury and mortality rates because of those seatbelts and airbags, which are optimized for taller drivers, controls out of reach, and such.

[-] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 5 points 5 hours ago

One size fits none. :(

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