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Your Worst Dating Decision Was Probably at 19 (thelemmy.club)
submitted 3 months ago by [M] to c/Couplememes@sh.itjust.works
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[–] 80 points 3 months ago (14 children)

I'm 40, I couldn't fathom the effort required to date anyone under the age of 25

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  • [–] 25 points 3 months ago (7 children)

    I'm in my mid 40s and my hard limit is 30. I'm thinking of raising that to 35 after a few bad relationships.

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  • [–] 15 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (5 children)

    As a 33 year old, I went on a date with a 22 year old and yeah I just couldn't. I felt like I was babysitting. I can date a guy 20 years older but no one younger than me

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  • [–] 3 points 3 months ago (4 children)

    I know these are just general limits nothing concrete but I just imagined ya rejecting a guy cuz he was born one picosecond after you.

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  • [–] 7 points 3 months ago (3 children)

    Standards are standards.

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  • [–] -4 points 3 months ago* (2 children)

    no, they are arbitrary bullshit you tell yourself to make you feel like you have control or give you ready made excuses to keep making the same mistakes, over and over and over, rather than trying something different that might make you genuinely happy.

    someone's age, or height, or amount of income/wealth isn't going to make you happy and fulfilled. but you tell yourself it will because it feels like it's something you can control. of course, the irony being the other person could just lie about those things...

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  • [–] 12 points 3 months ago (1 child)

    Soo you need more energy to party and keep up with them BUT the key is finding a young one that doesn't know what a healthy relationship looks like. That way you save on having to put effort into the relationship and support them and all that other stuff you need to do with a mature partner

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  • [–] 0 points 3 months ago*

    i'm 40 and I have lost all interest in dating anyone of any age... because the return on investment of my time/energy just never happens. It just feels like I'm gambling and hoping I'll get a jackpot, but all I'm doing is throwing away money and time that would be better invested in other things.

    and when I made the choice to stop prioritizing dating/relationships/friends... my life vastly improved and it does feel like I hit the jackpot. and now I just end up meeting people who are still addicting to gambling and looking for me to be their 'get out of depression/debt/misery' jackpot.

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