WHY the only men who approach me with amorous intentions are unhealthy, cigarette, alcohol, junk food men?? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

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I'm a healthy outdoorsy athletic woman, never touched drugs or alcohol or junk food, a lifestyle which is intentional & ESSENTIAL criteria I work hard for.

So WHY the only men who approach me with amorous intentions are unhealthy, cigarette, alcohol, junk food men??

Update: Thank you for your thoughtful responses & the humorous ones too. I upvoted my favorites & laughed at the funnies and you've given me plenty to think about & work on.

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[-] RBWells@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

This is the most likely explanation by far. You are looking for such a small subset of the available population, you are unlikely to hit on what you want by chance.

You would need to either increase your tolerance in some direction (need fit & active, don't mind some drinking, some junk food as long as they don't care you don't join in that).

One other thought, I am a lady but if I met a guy who was TOO clean living, I'd worry how he was in bed, does he consider sex a vice too? Some of those guys are kinda crazy.

Maybe ask your friends if they know anyone you might vibe with or try online dating apps.

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