I really think that the word "abolish" is causing problems of understanding here. For most people, "abolish" conjures up the word "abolition," as in the abolition of slavery. That was not a movement that made slavery optional for those who wanted it but kept it in place for those who still wanted to maintain the practice; it was emphatically a movement to make the very concept of slavery illegal (we could have a conversation about how successful it was in the context of the private prison complex, but that's a whole other can of fish).
When we talk about abolishing something, we generally aren't saying we're going to reduce it as an obligation or pay less attention to it; we mean we're going to do everything in our power to make it not exist anymore. If people assume you mean the latter when you actually mean the former, it's going to cause confusion and derail the entire conversation into a cul de sac of definition, rather than addressing the actual topic we want to address.