Neither spoke about how to be a good person and what you should be doing.

This is a parenting principle I’ve heard from the Conscious Discipline crowd: tell your kid what to do rather than what not to do. They don’t have the presence to immediately know a better alternative to what they’re doing, and all they can think about is what they’re told not to do. So most likely they will continue doing that.

Mr Chazz talks about this a couple minutes into this parenting analysis: https://tankie.tube/w/sKdHBXjZ8cTqbxsJC8cJxe