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How do you learn to be happy by yourself?
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It helped when I realized how miserable most people make me. Also that my concept of happiness involved community that I was never really a part of anyway. More like a pet.
I don't at all claim to be wildly happy now, but I'm allowed to be curious when I'm not around other people and sometimes that's pretty close. The only thing I really look forward to is moments when I will be more free to indulge curiosity
I relate. i really don't get why people HATE curiosity. They are offended by it. It seems worse now than it was years ago. Like I ask people questions about why they like things and instead of being being glad to discuss it they get UPSET and start telling me what an asshole I am for asking them why/how they got into something.
Last month I was on a first date and she was into Tennis. I was asking her about it and she got angry with me because I was so 'ignorant'. Like... yeah that's why I'm asking you so I can be less ignorant!
That's for saying so! I feel seen. Yeah there's some kind of fucked up expectation in our culture that we just always already know things or be skilled. I think about most of the stuff I've done that has pissed people off (and there's a lot, I'm a problem) but the offenses that got me the most vitriol were when I didn't know a thing and either had to act on incomplete knowledge or state my ignorance.
Pretty fucked up that pressure even exists in dating! I developed this irrational fear of people who always seemed certain they already know everything a while back. Seems like they'll take partial info to some really nasty places just for like, fun or something.