You do not have to do makeup to be a woman, if you want to do it because it makes you happy than do it. If you think its an obligation, its not. Maybe it'd help you pass but the dread you felt suggests maybe you don't want to do makeup. So don't!
it seems really expected of women and Im transitioning to be a woman. And it would help me look better
This part is beauty standards and internalized stuff. You should talk to your support group about these feelings and that you felt some dread about it. Also... you might like makeup later when youre doing it (I do)! If you like it do it! Not bbecause you "have" to or "women have to" - do you tell women in your life they need to wear makeup?