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(Same details as my last post, but with a different question in the title because getting responses about how people get through bullying was the point. Last title is too specific.)


I'm curious to know even if your way isn't what I'm trying.

It's awful to get dehumanized when you're the most down.

I have found that my way through this will be grief instead of anger. Anger is okay, but it can be left at the point of my initial response. Grief is a way of loving, and I am trying to love myself through this hurt. I want to explore this hurt. But I'm not really sure how.

Thankfully the main person I have in mind while writing this is gone from my life, so I don't need to hold onto anger so much.

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[-] [email protected] 12 points 3 days ago

Are you a kid or an adult? What is the setting?

[-] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Adult. A shitty roommate moved out.

~~TW: SI attempt(no method mentioned), SA~~ I tried to attempt SI. Someone made ex roommate hide my method of choice in her room to keep it away from me. Less than an hour later, she came out and the first thing she said was "You're almost X-years old, and you're acting like THIS?"

She also heard me repeatedly sob about having been SA'd.

She later told us that she can hear everything we say when her door is closed. (After she moved out we found out even if you yell at the top of your lungs, you can't hear the words from ex roomates old room unless you press your ear to the door.) She later said to my boyfriend in front of me "Mike Tyson is a removed and I like him." Adding since he admitted to rping she was fine with the fact he's aremoved*." She was always giving edgy offensive takes.

That was in response to us loudly talking for a month about how disgusting it is that she's a big fan of a Nazi even while her romantic partner Jewish. After coming out to say she chose to stop listening to the Nazi(without any apologizing) she switched right to her love for Mike Tyson.

Months later a pigeon landed close to our windows and coo'd. When we later told her about it, her first response was gloating about Mike Tyson and how much she loves him for keeping pigeons.

[-] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago

Thank God they're gone. I think just getting a breather is a good next step, let yourself decompress and see how you feel 2-3 weeks from now

[-] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

They've been gone for years. I'm just starting to feel my grief about the hurt. I only just realized anger only makes me relive them being here so I'm trying to leave that in my past amd work on my grief.

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