Something I dont see people talk very much about is the wheel of consent. I think its a very useful tool/framework for talking about what you want and how you want it. Broad strokes overview is thay it divides activities into two axis, touching vs being touched, and for your pleasure vs for your partners pleasure. These are broadly organized into giving and receiving. E.g. if im being touched for my partners pleasure, i am giving. Being touched for my pleasure, i am receiving. If im touching for my partners pleasure i am giving, for my pleasure receiving. The creator (betty something, forget her whole name) has some videos up thay get into the specifics and the nitty gritty of it. Her video on giving vs receiving is really useful IMO, because its one of the few places ive seen recognized the deep vulnerability needed to receive. Giving is easy, it doesnt require vulnerability to nearly the same extent.