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I think there's some important context that is needed here:
A) does the purple shirt guy look like you? All you can tell about his clothing is he's wearing an untucked t-shirt. Do you have long hair you wear in a part, a big beard and thick rimmed glasses? If so maybe the fact this is a fashion show is unrelated and she just saw someone who reminded her of you and this is a nice message.
B) if not, do you regularly tease each other? If so this is also a nice message where she's teasing you about still grooming like a 00s hipster.
C) if neither of the above, then it's B but it's no longer a nice message and you should respond like @[email protected] suggested
I have long hair and I have a denim jacket with metal/punk patches and I do wear generally colourful clothes and t-shirts and stuff.
We see and talk pretty regularly. She definitely doesn't hate me, but also since she didn't elaborate beyond this or say "he's into metal/punk" or anything it's weird to just say this and then not elaborate.
She also calls implies I'm overweight it sometimes and it annoys me, which I feel like is maybe part of this but IDK. She also generally does that thing of totally stonewalling me/family if anything stressful comes up so if I ask I have a feeling she'd just ignore it.