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Anyone have any advice on just kind of hating people in general less? I look at people, I know they’re huge on religious doctrines and societal models I have no place in, and I just can’t see any good in them worth considering. I try to go outside and connect with people, but everyone looks like a 4channer, or someone two slights away from becoming a 4channer. I can’t restrain the fear or loathing. It’s like the past twenty years have reduced my very capacity for compassion and my capacity to respect anyone period to molten slag.

Heteronormative society and all who uphold it fucking blow, but I’m expected to keep it in my pants re: how and when I take it out on them.

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 3 days ago (5 children)

i have a similar issue at times and i've found embracing a buddhist mindset has helped me with this. i think buddhism and marxism are pretty compatible worldviews, even if they seem very opposed at first.

to cut straight to the answer to your question: try to replace hate with compassion. when you find yourself expending mental energy on hating a specific group of people (bourgeoisie, CHUDs online, etc), remind yourself that 1) they are not content with their inner lives and that's why they behave in a way that makes you hate them and 2) they are suffering due to capitalism, even if they're suffering is different in both kind a degree from yours. even the "winners" in this system are miserable (e.g., elon musk. the richest dude on earth is also deeply unhappy)

note the emphasis on teh word "try" in the previous paragraph. you will fail at having compassion for your enemies, and that's ok -- you're only human and you need to have compassion for yourself as well when you fail. just making the effort will make you less hateful and angry

Death to America

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