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People who treat your inability to pay for things as a choice deserve to be thrown out of a building (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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"Why don't you want to come to my wedding?"

"I want to come but I can't afford a ticket overseas."

"Whatever, if you want to stay home and miss out on life that's your decision I guess."

Apparently me saying no to this wedding was the last straw for them, because they're always asking me to do things I can't afford and they don't seem to understand why I can't despite me telling them every time that I am poor. So now I'm the bad person because I'm totally being poor and "holding myself back" on purpose.

If they want to burn this bridge they can fuck right off. I've had enough of this shit.

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 2 months ago (2 children)

And it's a trope that nobody really enjoys a destination wedding in the first place

Like there's multiple avenues that tell you it's a bad idea

But they just keep doing it

[–] [email protected] 27 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It's so presumptuous. Unless you're paying for your guests' travel and lodging, you should not have a destination wedding. People who decide to have weddings in other countries and don't pay for guests just reek of "I'm irresponsible with money but I'm also a trustfund baby so I can't fail. I definitely do not have the money for this thing, yet I'm doing it anyway to make myself look successful."

Then they do shit like a bachelor's party at a strip club and a bride wanting her special day before they get divorced in 3 months.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Some friends of mine recently had a nice compromise. A local ceremony that was easier for their friends and family to get to, then an optional trip with them to Hawaii that you needed to RSVP for ahead of time cuz they were arranging group pricing for some stuff. Kind of like tagging along for their honeymoon.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 months ago

And that makes sense because it's more like a group roadtrip. I've seen shit like people having a destination wedding over a weekend. Like of course no one wants to spend hundreds (or thousands) of dollars to fly 8 hours, stay for a day and watch the ceremony, then fly home.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 months ago (2 children)

::: spoiler not actually relevant to the thread complaint about family and destination weddings I moved away from my home city, and the vast majority of my extended family hasn't. Lots haven't even ever left that city, like, ever. So we send out wedding invites, and my mom's all "everyone thinks you're very rude for having a destination wedding and nobody's going to come." I wasn't having a destination wedding, I was having a wedding in the city where me and my partner have lived for years.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 months ago

lol, great bit mom

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 months ago (1 children)

destination wedding
the destination is Chicago
no one from Rockford IL wants to come
they all think i'm very rude
i'm literally getting married at the courthouse and having a house party
mfw

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Anyone who won't drive a couple hours on a whim should be deported from the Midwest and shipped to the east coast. They'd be much happier. Like, there are literally people who commute Rockford to Chicago and think it's normal. (It's not they're weird, but to each their own)