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Do you guys have any incels you know personally? (hexbear.net)

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There's some guy I talk to who believes the theory that the top 20 percent of dudes get 80% of women, and that because he doesn't have a brad pitt jaw and isn't 6' +, he might as well just hate women because they'll never like him anyways.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

I'll let you in on something you may or may not be aware of.

Fwiw in the US and other western societies, men are generally expected to make the first move. So don't sell yourself short. Especially if you've caught them checking you out or staring at you.

Go up and say hi, introduce yourself and feel things out.

You won't know if they want to talk to you if you never try man

Edit:Man is expected not the woman

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Go up and say hi, introduce yourself and feel things out.

I am 100% guaranteed to humiliate myself if I do this.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

So? What happens then?

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago (2 children)

back to square 1

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Yea, but you'll never leave square 1 if you don't go up at all

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I also won't leave square 1 if I tried, so...

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Yeah you will, as someone who's been both a man and a woman, I can tell you that you definitely will. We aren't some foreign creatures, we're people just like you. Dial back that anxiety, keep the ability to take a hint, and you'll do fine. To cringe is to grow!

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

No, I'm on disability and it instantly makes every woman I talk to uninterested in me because I don't work. No way around it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Here is the secret to picking up women

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7FVmeJXwCY

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 months ago

I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy:

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Not at all my experience where I’m from the man is very much expected to make the first move. I can count the times a woman came up to me and flirted with me from her own volition on one hand.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Fuck I meant to say man. Wasn't thinking.

Sorry! Was distracted.

Basically if this guy doesn't try, he'll never know is what I'm saying

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

Oh for sure, I just have always hated doing it personally.