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Sex is used as a tool of humiliation against women WhY dOn'T WoMeN WaNt To hAvE SeX AnYmOrE?!? [CW: talking about sexual violence] (hexbear.net)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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This might be a hot take, but people don't seem to realise that like... how do I explain this...

well let me put it this way;

In modern society, think about how sex is described for women. Women don't fuck, they get fucked. Think about how porn describes women being fucked. They get dominated, they get destroyed.

Think about how much porn is about rape, choking and other violence against women.

this type of talk dominates how cis dudes talk about sex with women, don't pretend it doesn't.

There is a reason that our language considers shit like "Get fucked" "Fuck you" and "I'm going to fuck you up" as insults. To fuck someone is to be the victor, to be fucked is to be humiliated, to be destroyed and dehumanised.

I mean, thankfully women are slowly taking back sex as something good and fun and empowering. But that history of sex as violent still lingers.

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 3 months ago (1 children)

This also ties into homophobia. They don't hate gay people per say, they hate men being "dominated" by penetration and being precised as feminine. It's an assault and a threat to their group privilege. What they really hate is women because, and just as with racism, they need to dehumanize their victims to rationalize the exploitation.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Ties into everything. It's always been said sex and sexual insecurities are damn near at the heart of fascism.

A lot of all this is simply about controlling women

[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 months ago

astronaut-1

[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Yugopnik had a good video about this " Why We Blame Women for The Masculinity Crisis "

"What does masculine mean without the feminine?"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

No offense, but I don't like this guy's style. You seem to have to have read a bunch of philosophy to know half of what he's talking about.

Not my thing personally

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Well I'm not him so I can't really take offense anya-heh

I think he explains his points well enough, so you don't necessarily need to read all the stuff, but to each their own. meow-coffee

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I found a YouTube link in your comment. Here are links to the same video on alternative frontends that protect your privacy: