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submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

I have a meet-and-greet no-obligations coffee date this week with a trans man, probably leading to him coming over this weekend if we hit it off in person. I'm a cis bi man, and I've never been with a trans man before. Obviously he and I are going to talk about mutual expectations and limits, safewords, etc. But are there any things that I should absolutely not do or say that are basically universal in the trans man experience? I want to get off on the right foot.

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[-] [email protected] 23 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

yeah so nothing is universal with trans people, so it's always good to have a chat / bring up what you're wondering before you bone

usually if I'm with someone new who is trans I like to ask what they like their bits called (maybe what some people might call a clit is actually a cock now for example) and what makes them feel best and most comfortable, anything that makes them feel uncomfortable etc. I think it's also worth asking how they feel about their chest since lots of trans masc folks dislike it being touched or even having it bare.

might feel like an uncomfortable or awkward discussion, but personally one of the reasons I don't like to fuck new cis people is because it always ends up with me having to lead a sex ed seminar, so it would probably be refreshing to have someone take the lead on respectful communication.

make no assumptions, tread politely, be a nice boy

hope you get strapped or whatever, godspeed soldier

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